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Dr Who, Eleven's run.
Amy Pond, fictional love of my life
Eleven - Capaldi’s a wonderful Doctor but I miss Eleven’s kindness and stupid goofy face
River Song, who really should come back to hang out with Twelve sometime
Rory, lovely sweet Rory
Vastra & Jenny, adorable interspecies detective marrieds of my heart <3
I suspect we didn't get the boys back because of actor schedules and availability. :P
and hey it's not like they retconned Jim and Gabe and Monty, just added to the crowd, BUT. this is going to up the craziness and size of the Howling Families SIGNIFICANTLY. Because we just went from five surviving HCs to nine with signs that Dum Dum is likely to brand people who feed him enough bourbon as part of the unit.
Like those are going to be the kind of family reunions that get you kicked out of the national park campgrounds for five years.
last-snowfall replied to your post:last-snowfall replied to your post: *has nothing...
*manages, via sheer force of facehands-ness-field, to disobey laws of physics and become a face-hands singularity*
Have I ever mentioned how extremely fortunate I consider myself to have had you in my formative years to point it out when you saw me making an "us vs them" formulation that robbed either side of their essential goodness or humanity?
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Altho I do wonder how much it is that they really don’t, and how much of that is not admitting weakness in front of another person, for some
Yeah, I mean, on a really deep level it's gotta be denial for a lot of people because we are human and all.
But mostly how this comes out in the wash is dude talking about how TOTALLY INEXPLICABLE a person's behaviour is and the therapist goes, "Could they possibly not like you?" or "Is it possible you misbehaved here?" and he is TOTALLY GOBSMACKED because he has NEVER thought of himself as a bad or unlikable person. "It never occurred to me to think how that might come across to someone else..."
Which I would guess links to the fact that in our society women are predominantly socialized to view ourselves as objects and constantly evaluate our desirability/niceness/goodness, while many men can escape that treatment.
It's a mental state mostly achieved through projection, naturally: such people who don't internalize the bad object externalize it instead. So they may think of themselves as good/likable, but project their Shadow onto an underclass of people who are forced to carry all the psyche's negative qualities. Which results in extremely shallow empathy for other people, which aids in obliviousness to other peoples' displeasure/dislike/pain.
And then you get stories about 40-yo businessmen who finally do look into the face of the poor people they spent their whole lives hating and "I realized I was looking into my own eyes" and FUCKING HELL, THE REST OF US LEARNED HOW TO EMPATHIZE WHEN WE WERE CHILDREN AND DIDN'T DESTROY ENTIRE SOCIAL STRUCTURES OUT OF MISGUIDED HATRED BEFORE WE FIGURED IT OUT.
last-snowfall replied to your post:tygermama replied to your post:tygermama replied...
… you know, without the “motherfucker” that would have been a fair comment.
It's my ambition to one day tell him that kind of thing WITHOUT needing massive amounts of adrenaline first.
Maybe in therapy, who knows.
last-snowfall replied to your post:I’m moving away, away, away from beautiful...
Guess what race and gender most of the people who are expected to take those jobs are? Go on, guess.
BUT THE TEMPORARY FOREIGN WORKER PROGRAM ISN'T RACIST
last-snowfall replied to your post: Well huh, hanging out + going to churc...
That … doesn’t surprise me a lot. =/ I’m sorry. (and stupid tumblr for tricking me into reblogging first instead of replying)
I've called him "suspiciously normal" for years now, an as it turns out I was right, there was something fishy about it even though it's not the usual family I'm-fine-plastered-over-disaster. It's that he isn't quite aware of how his behaviour policing has the risk of hurting the people around him. He enforces normalcy even when it means selling out authenticity. And it makes sense that I've avoided him for so long.
