Something more than mere survival

She/her. Canadian cat lady. Mentally ill therapist. You will pry the word "queer" from my cold dead hands. Patreon and Paypal

[star-anise]

So @star-anise as an account A Lot to deal with these days. I have a lot of old text posts on contentious topics (feminism, queerness, bisexuality, mental health etc) and a routine part of my week is seeing really hateful people popping up in my notes. I block them when I can, but it’s a perpetual game of whack-a-mole. I don’t want to delete my blog, though, or make my posts hard to access at their usual URLs, or completely lose touch with it.

Therefore: I’m going to do a lot of my blogging for now out of @beyondthisdarkhouse (or my fannish sideblog for The Untamed/The Old Guard/Murderbot/Zen Cho, @with-my-murder-flute). My askbox is going to stay closed for a bit and I’m going to be slower and more thoughtful about what I post here.

I never did and never will provide therapy via Tumblr, but if you’re looking for support, I’d suggest finding a local mental health or crisis line if you need to talk or if you want to know where to access affordable counselling near you, or trying Scarleteen for questions about sexuality and gender.

[captainjonnitkessler]

So many political posts I hate boil down to "I don't want to organize and work with people I hate and fight for small, incremental victories, I just want to start a revolution where everyone magically becomes an automaton who acts exactly the way I think they should act"

Like damn man, I want that too. Unfortunately I live in reality though so we're stuck with the first thing.

[captainjonnitkessler]

"Modern movements are too fractured, too aimless, with too much infighting and corruption among the leadership. What we need is a revolution, which famously never have any issues with those things" okay then. Good luck I guess

This whole line of thinking comes down to "the current systems and leadership are bad. What we need is a fresh start with only people who are good, and then all the systems will be good". Which is simply not how anything has ever worked!

[traycakes]

"We don't have enough people, funding, and power to bring about changes through elections! We have to do an armed revolution instead which thankfully doesn't require people, funding, or power to pull off."

[beyondthisdarkhouse]

Vet fees fundraiser: $230 of $800 raised

Tl;dr: My mom's cat needs veterinary care while she's on a limited income.

I got a video that shows some of the gait issues we're concerned about. We're taking him to the vet this afternoon to get him looked at. Thank you so much to everyone who's supported us so far, whether by donation or signalboost.

Gofundme here.

[creekfiend]

we are broadly so fucking bad at being good friends to people who Cannot Leave

there are people who Cannot Leave. hopefully it's not the case for their whole lives but it is the case for them RIGHT NOW. and even trauma and abuse aware communities are shitassfuck bad at knowing how to be a supportive friend to these people and I find it soooo fucking frustrating. it's condescension and scolding and unrealistic standards and victim blaming and minimizing all the way fucking down .

[lailah-tov]

It's so important to educate yourself about why people stay in bad situations and how to help someone who can't leave or goes back. Any sentence starting with "You should just" is bad, but "You should just leave" is one of the worst.

[creekfiend]

thank you for those links!

[sewer-swan]

please stop trying to convince me the cause is righteous and convince me the tactics are effective

[star-anise]

I am not actually in favour of religous oppression and telling people what to believe

But god damn, every time the unique thing people choose to personally believe is that their children are possessed by demons and need to be abused to get the demons out

I begin to feel a tiny bit of sympathy with religious authorities, you know?

[hollowboobtheory]

[torstherapy]

[tinsnip]

Per @spoonstrek

[phantomrose96]

You can be talking to someone and she'll be like, "Oh I made a silly mistake. Women don't deserve voting rights teehee." And you'll be like, "What." And she'll be like, "Oh I'm sorry! That must sound so bad out of context. No it's this Tiktok meme where, if you're a girl and you do something dumb, you say 'Women don't deserve voting rights teehee.'"

And you'll be like, "That sounds bad." And she'll be like, "No no. It's totally not that bad. It's just a meme. Men say it too. Like if a man does something silly he'll be like, 'I am like those women who do not deserve to vote.'" And you'll be like, "Does that make it better?" And she'll be like, "Well there was one guy who tried to make 'Men shouldn't vote' a popular meme. But it never caught on and also he got yelled at a lot."

And then you drop it there because like, you're harshing the vibe.

[wake-meme-up-inside]

God this makes me think of this screenshot:

"it minimizes you as a person" really wraps up my entire discomfort with the whole "oh but i'm just a girl" thing when used in most situations.

[aries-of-spades]

[cilceon]

Did you know that there are 58 tortillas in space right now and that number dwindles as the hunger of four astronauts grows

[elierlick]

Yet another new study debunked the basis for the anti-trans sports bans. It was never about sports but for creating legal avenues for exclusion and abjection. This is one of the largest analyses ever conducted, involving 52 studies and 6,485 trans people. Read the study here.

[lucieslucidity]

post so nice had to reblog it twice and force it down everyone's throats

[the-haiku-bot]

post so nice had to

reblog it twice and force it

down everyone’s throats

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[sidras-tak]

Idk how many young people are still on tumblr but as a college academic advisor please listen to me: it is fine to drop out of college. It’s great even. You can drop out of college if that is what is best for you. However. Please. For the love of god, actually drop your classes. Go to the registrar/your advisor/your student portal/whatever and withdraw from your classes. Do not just stop attending. If you just stop showing up, you will fail all of the classes you’re enrolled in. This will tank your GPA, and if you ever decide you want to go back to school for a specific career, those Fs will come back to bite you. My college program is fairly lenient for our field (healthcare) and still we have to turn away a bunch of students who don’t have a 2.5 GPA, and the reason is that they attended half a semester of college in 2000, dropped out without withdrawing, and ended up with a 0.0 GPA and 16 credits. It’s very tough to recover from that. Even if you think you’ll never go to college, please just withdraw from those classes. Depending on when you withdraw, you may still have to pay for them, but at least there will be a little W transcript that will save your GPA.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

I'm so sick of defending shit I don't even like. I hate porn. I think gender and sexuality are boring. I've never taken an illegal drug and have no interest in doing so. But people won't back the fuck off and let people live their lives so here we still are, still on the front lines with this shit. "You guys make everything about" I'D REALLY LOVE NOT TO, MATE, BUT WE'RE NOT THE ONES CREATING PROBLEMS HERE. Stop trying to control people's lives and we'll all get a chance to shut up about it, but unfortunately the Moral Police are out here endangering lives and livelihoods so here we still are. Forever.

[ramquest-deactivated20260414]

God I fucking feel you. Too real.

[paulgadzikowski]

"Why do you have to make everything about" WE'RE NOT. YOU ARE. WE'RE RESPONDING TO YOU.

[the-tenth-arcanum]

🗣🗣🗣 free youtube premiere of the national theatre the importance of being ernest announced!

nationaltheatre

[beyondthisdarkhouse]

I don't know how many soulmate goose enforcer fans there are, but I was mulling over ideas for designing stickers or journals or whatever with some ✨optimistic uplifting✨ message

and then I got this idea and couldn't stop giggling

Tell me if anyone else finds this funny because I'm not allowed to spend more time perfecting the design unless it's something that might ever sell.

(original goose images by Lesia Pavlenko)

[jamjarblues]

remembering the time i saw a post on reddit discussing some scheme put on by the uk government (i think it was the pensioners heating bill one?) and all the americans in the thread were super offended the headline was calling it a ‘scheme’, saying it was deliberately putting a negative light on it. no babes we call everything a scheme here. thats just the word we use when the government does something - which i realise for people not familiar with the terms makes it sound like parliament is full of supervillains rubbing their hands together thinking up ways to ruin the ok post cancelled thats exactly what parliament is

[beyondthisdarkhouse]

In other disabled news, I'm still fighting to keep my head above water financially, both personally and with my business. If anyone is able to contribute to helping me keep the lights on, or signalboosting this campaign to people who can, I'd deeply appreciate it.