please read if you are at all questioning your sexuality!
Okay so, as promised here is a little help on getting to know your sexuality. No one else can tell if you're gay for sure, but you. Here are some questions to ask yourself that can help you figure it out!
Do you wonder if you'll ever start liking the opposite sex- the way you think you're "supposedto"?
When your friends talk about the opposite sex, do you feel bored- or like you can't relate to their interest in the opposite sex?
Do you find yourself daydreaming or fantasizing about dating the same sex rather than the opposite sex?
Do you ever think about what it would feel like to kiss or makeout with the same sex?
If you answered yes to any of these, you are probably in some way attracted to the same sex to some degree. That's pretty common though and doesn't necessarily mean that you are bisexual or gay. But if you would like to talk about these feelings to someone I am always here!
Here's what you should know before you decide to tell people you're attracted to the same sex.
Should you do it? Before telling your family and friends make sure it is the right thing for you to do. Will you be safe? you can't know for sure how your family or community will react- but their feelings toward other gay people should give you an idea of how accepting they'll be. If people at school are mean to gay people, consider how they'd treat you before telling people at school. And if you live at home and think your parents might disown you or financially cut you off if they find out you're gay, don't tell them until you are out of the house and can support yourself. Do you have a support system? Before coming out, talk to another gay person who's been through it and understands how you feel. You can also, as you know, talk to me.
How to do it. Here's a good plan to follow if you do decide to come out to your family and friends. Tell the person you trust the most first- it will help you feel safer. When the two of you are hanging out, say, "since we're so close, I want you to know that I am attracted to boys/girls." You can use these exact words as a guide for telling anyone you are close to. Try doing it face-to-face, they will feel more connected to you and see you're still the same person they know and love. Also, stay calm and be ready for questions. People might ask how long you've felt this way, or if you're sure you're gay. To prepare for these questions you can go to pflag.org and print out the "getting support- coming out" section. If anyone you're coming out to has questions that you don't know how to answer, you can give them this print out!