#lesbients

[bufordtannen]

lesbients a réagi à votre billet :Fuck y’all and your negativity. You can suck my...

Sorry to be negative friend do you want me to tag it in the future?

tagging won't change anything since I don't have savior or whatever anyway

I'm just trying to enjoy this massively positive force in the world without the barrage of douchecanoodles acting like the book/movie was garbage and that John Green is the scum of the earth for being proud that this is what has come of his work

and I guarantee you if this was some other author people would be falling all over themselves in agreement with those tweets and I'm fucking sick of this attitude of demonizing people for doing nothing wrong

so i'm still of the opinion that anyone having this massive negativity jerk off can suck my cock

[bufordtannen]

lesbients a réagi à votre billet :I always panic when job interviews ask me what my...

i think it’s to keep u in check. lols i was told i come across as a know-it-all bc of exactly what you just described, but if i know something IM CONFIDENT just correct me if im wrong pls and i will learn quickly and fix my problem.

I don't need to be kept in check. I'm not out of control, man. idk there's always bullshit phrasing for that question too. Like, "I tend to let people boss me around" (which shows you're going to take direction well, but you probably lack leadership qualities oops) or "Sometimes, I spend more time than necessary on a task, or take on tasks personally that could easily be delegated to someone else. Although I've never missed a deadline, it is still an effort for me to know when to move on to the next task, and to be confident when assigning others work." like you're not actually supposed to give a weakness. You're supposed to humblebrag.

[honeynut-queerio]

found this from '12 election

[asoulrendered]

So. I gotta share a little story..

I took my twin nine year old daughters to Girl Guides last week, and as we're getting out of the van, one of them turns to me and out of the blue asks.. "Dad.. what's a lesbient"

I was a bit surprised and trying not to giggle at the pronunciation, but I took it in stride and said "Well.. that'll take a little more time to talk about than we have walking from the van to the school door, so how about we talk about that later?"

"Ok.. no problem"

So. the other day, over dinner with my three kids, my 11 year old son and my two daughters, I said "So..now that we have some time, let's talk about that question you asked in the van the other day."

So.  I asked how this came up and it turned out that in gym class, my daughters were doing the tango around the gym (yeah.. we're a shy, quiet, unassuming bunch, our family! NOT!)  and one of the boys came up and said "You two are a couple of lesbients", obviously meaning it as a slur..

First thing I said was that in now way should they take it as a negative word.  I asked them if they knew what gay meant, and my son did, but my daughters were unsure.  I explained that sometimes boys and girls love each other, but sometimes boys love boys and girls love girls.  They actually have a girl in their class that has two moms, so the concept wasn't completely foreign.. I got a chorus of "OOOOHH.. like M*'s moms!"

I said that some people think it's wrong for boys to love boys and girls to love girls, but that we don't feel that way.  I said we felt that people should just get to love whomever they want.  *insert lots of nodding here"  They totally agreed.   

I said some people use words like gay, or lesbian or fag like it's a bad word.. They used it to be mean.. to try to hurt people.  We talked about other words can be hurtful that we don't use to attack someone like stupid and fat, and that these words are no different.  There's nothing wrong with two ladies being lesbians.  I asked if it made sense if someone came up and said  "You two are a blondes!!"  Would that bother you?  They said no, and I said it's the same thing.

"But we're not lesbians, Dad."

I know.. but even if you were, it shouldn't hurt if someone called you that" It's just a word, and just that person being mean and ignorant. (which precipitated a short conversation about the different between stupid and ignorant)

And with that, we went back to dinner.

I've seen a few posts on here about people stressing about having these kinds of conversations with their kids.  Kids get it.. Don't worry about it..