finding queer friends 101
this question has been popping up a lot lately, and I’m always all about helping the baby queers, so here is:
Assembling Your Queer Squad: A Short Guide.
queer youth groups. it’s that simple. just google ‘lgbt youth group [your city]’. I know so, so many people who met awesome queer friends that way. meetings are usually open for everybody, so go ahead! and if you’re shy/socially anxious/awkward: take a friend with you! they don’t need to be queer! they can just be there for support! groups like these also often do open days.
go to queer events - pride events (parties and parades, usually held in june/july), queer parties, protests (if you’re into those), anything! a lot of cities have a queer calendar or something, again just google around! ‘[your city] lgbt events’ should do it.
gay/queer bars! they seem scary at first, I know (and obvs don’t go there if you’re underage), but at the end of the day, it’s just a normal bar - but with queer people! especially good if you already have one or two queer friends but you’d like more. of course, you can take non-queer friends as support as well. these can be a double-edged sword, though - try to steer away from people who are obviously just looking for a hookup or seem shady in any way. trust your gut, stay safe.
if you’re still in school: queer school clubs! america has the gsa which I’ve heard is amazing, but other countries often have similar things!
the tip above also goes for unis/colleges, who sometimes tend to offer more than schools. again - google is your friend!
most importantly - don’t be afraid to chat people up! no kidding, most queer people I’ve met are super nice, especially if they find out you’re a newbie to the community. seriously - don’t be afraid to play the gaybie card. they’ll usually adopt you right away, or at least point you in the right direction.
I’m probably forgetting a few things, so if anyone has anything to add - shoot!