Hi friend, I noticed when you talk about your wife you say "their" mom or "their" boyfriend. I've heard about being gender neutral or fluid but I don't really understand. If you don't mind would you explain a bit more?
I don’t mind at all, thanks for asking!
My wife, tinkerpistol identifies as agender. This means that they don’t really identify with any gender, or that they feel androgynous. This means gender neutral pronouns (they/them) are the preference. I’m not agender myself, so I don’t want to go too far into it, but those are the basics.
As for myself, I identify as vaguely genderfluid. This means that my gender identity isn't concrete, and it tends to just do whatever it likes. I definitely tend to be more feminine than masculine. Some days I wake up and I’m like “yep, definitely a boy” but for the most part, I don’t really associate myself with being male? I do identify as male, but I’m honestly not sure if that just because that’s how I’ve been perceived for so long. When I picture myself in my head, I've always seen a girl, but I've never experienced dysphoria, and misgendering has never been an issue for me. I’m not sure if that’s because my gender spectrum is much smaller than I think it is, or if it’s just because I don’t really give a shit about how others perceive me. This is why I say vaguely genderfluid- While I’m not entirely comfortable identifying as cis, I know that my gender identity has never really affected my privilege, so I’m far less comfortable calling myself anything but cis.
All I know is if there was a magical machine that let you play character creator with your body mine would be substantially different than it is now. (Ideally, I think I’d like to look like a shorter version of lollerization, but I really enjoy having a penis so I'd probs keep that, and my hair would be a lot longer). I really enjoy wearing skirts and dresses and stuff, but I don’t really do it that often because I don't like the way they look on me most of the time, and I’m really not comfortable with the idea of getting murdered by rednecks.
