i know people like to headcanon queer characters as fully aware of their identity right down to super specific micro-labels, i assume as a form of wish fulfillment, which is ultimately harmless and you can do whatever you want forever. but i really think of lilith as someone who didn't realize that being aroace is a thing until recently, and before that she had just internalized her lack of attraction to anyone as a few different things... different priorities from these silly childish romantics, a cold unloveable-ness that she both performed in the coven and was afraid was true about her, and like. the worst one that's haunting me right now. but in the way that a nun or priestly figure is celibate because they're "married to god" or something like that, she sees herself as more devoted to belos than the others who get distracted by their relationships.