Anon Advice Asks - January 17
grounded anon, dilemma anon, new bank account anon (new), longfic anon (new)
grounded anon
hey
its your girl again
i hate hiding myself. Idk maybe im just tired but whtv. I just made myself a (fake) pinterest account with jesus and shit on it and its like fuck man do i even believe in this? Anyway bsf situation: we joke (idk if its a joke anymore) about marrying eachother. We talk about moving in after graduating, say were going to kiss eachother constantly. I also say "do you have anything you want to say" as in 'do you have a crush on me hahaha' and she'll just like side eye me and i say it as a joke so maybe shes just playing along but idk fuck dude im so excited to turn 18 and leave this bumfuck small town. I don't want to be here anymore! I don't want to be in a place where the bully people for being gay so much they have to move! And it doesn't stop! Even if it gets reported! This didn't happen to me, but to a friend of mine.
I don't think I want to be catholic anymore. Don't know if i even want to follow any religion. It doesn't bring me comfort, and thus far it has only brung me heartache. Hope your doing well, thanks for responding
-grounded anon
Hi hon <3
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It absolutely sucks to feel stuck like this. It's so claustrophobic and lonely. I know that someday you'll have more freedom, but until then, it's so awful.
Try to remind yourself that it's not forever. And as far as religion...it's completely up to you and your comfort, but you should know that there are churches and religions that don't hold that guilt. I know you'll find that support someday, whether or not it's within a religion! <3
I'm sending you so much love!
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dilemma anon
hi! it’s dilemma anon with another dilemma. the previous dilemma is solved. anyway, I’ve been getting a lot of comments about my weight. keep in mind, I weigh at most 130 pounds and that is stretching it because I haven’t weighed myself in a while. I’m 5’1 by the way, and a quick google search has told me that I’m not overweight. at all. but my parents keep mentioning how I used to be skinny (I probably gained like five pounds in three years) at the beginning of last year. I’ve never been super skinny, and I’ve never been overweight either. the fact that my friend, who definitely weighs less than me, started saying things about how she NEEDED to exercise or else all her fat wouldn’t get toned and turn into muscle definitely didn’t help. I’ve never been super concerned about my weight until now. so uh yeah
Hi!
Okay well I'm not a doctor but you are NOT overweight. First of all, I think society puts way too much pressure on the number on the scale. You need to ask your doctor about things like blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc. If those numbers are good, then you are healthy, no matter what number you see when you weigh yourself! Second of all as you become an adult, your body is going to naturally change. Depending on your gender assigned at birth, you'll develop hips, muscle mass, etc. It's unhealthy for any adult to be a stick- that's a child's body, not an adult!
I know it's hard, but try not to listen to what people who are not medical professionals say about your health. If your doctors say you are doing well, then you are fine <3 And I am so proud of you for questioning the way society thinks about weight, because it is so fucked up.
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new bank account anon (new)
so i am only 16 right and i was setting up my new bank account today and i was sitting on the couch next to dad and he was watching the cricket. anyway i had to fill out info ect. and give phone number, australian passport, email, ect. and then i was filling it out and it said citizenships. and i put australian and us because i have an american citizen. and then i got to the next slide and it fucked itself because it wants me to register to pay american tax or something. i'm australain by the way. and its in an app and like you cant go back to the previous page or like get help or delete the account right ist like stuck. so i got mum and mum and dad lost their shit! bc technically im an american citizen but I wasn't meant to put that because then it reports you and you have to pay tax right, which i shouldnt have to do because im a minor and i'm earning like a hundred dollars a week. and mum is very very very mad. apparently you have to then get a tax accountant to file the tax return and its like 1.5 grand minimum and its super complicate and a lot of hassle. so theres no way to fix it. and technically its right so they wouldn't reset the account. maybe we can open an account with a new bank but everyone else in my family is on one bank and it will fuck things up. anyway i didn't know and im in a lot of trouble because i should have asked for help but i didn't realise it was that big of a deal, i was just filling things out! and i feel so so so so guilty, and i cant deal, and i cant breathe, and its like midnight and i know theres nothing i can do about it but i just feel so bad.
anyway im just really tired and i know its probably not that big of a deal but i am just so guilty and my parents are so mad and i just am not very good at dealing with stuff like this. like if something happens i just, the guilt overwhelms me and i cant even function. i think guilt is the strongest emotion i experience. i just needed to rant, and i really dont have anyone to talk to.
anyway hope you're doing well.
Hi!
I'm so sorry this happened, it sounds so frustrating! US taxes are awful and confusing and everyone here hates them too. I really don't think you should feel guilty though...nobody warned you about this and you didn't do it on purpose. You made a mistake, and that happens sometimes! Nobody got injured or died, so it WILL be okay.
That being said. I am not an accountant and I don't know Australian laws, but I've had to do my own taxes in the US for many years now, and I just have a few things to think about:
Taxes usually don't have to be reported in locations in the US you don't live in. For example, I don't live in Texas, so I don't file taxes in Texas. Meaning: if you don't live in the US, you might not have to report your taxes there?
Very few people in the US actually hire accountants. Many people use websites like Turbotax and H and R Block. They can still cost money, but not nearly as much as hiring an accountant. I'd look into that!
Google says that even if you DO have to file, the US government has exemptions for 'foreign residents' as long as you make under $120000 a year and live outside of the US for 330 days a year.
I hope this helps a little!
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longfic anon
hey cas!!! Hope you're doing well!! I've started writing a longfic that I've wanted to for a long time, but life as per usual got in the way and I...haven't written or wanted to update it for along time, and I just don't feel like its going anywhere? I don't know if I should just let it go, cuz I feel guilty about that? I have no clue what to do.
Hi!
I think it's important to remember that writing fanfic is supposed to be fun! You absolutely do not have to do anything you don't want to do, and you have no obligation to anyone! You could abandon the fic, put it on hiatus, leave it as-is, or delete it....whatever feels right to you. This is YOUR writing, not anyone else's, and you shouldn't feel pressured at all.
My only advice is, if you decide to delete it, have a backup copy somewhere in case you ever decide to go back to it. <3