its hard to really emphasize just how much i do not care what you do with fanwork and headcanon btw... especially without sounding like im just saying it to prop up my other point
i really don't care if you want to portray them that way. im not a stranger to people trying to police what i can and can't portray because of arbitrary, often transient, unspoken rules. so i completely understand how obnoxious that is and im pretty constantly telling people not to be like that in the communities i frequent
but it becomes a whole 'nother issue when you are spreading the message that the type of relationship they have is what constitutes toxicity. that toxicity is being dependent on someone. or having debates with someone. or disagreeing from time to time. or just, being human in a world that hates you.
not only is it hella uncomfortable in the sense that there's always a double standard applied to queer relationships (as opposed to straight ones) it also sets this really fucking weird standard about what constitutes to a healthy or toxic relationship.
i have been in toxic relationships. this is not what that is. and it's frankly troubling that anyone would think so solely from their read of the canon material
