Apr 28, 2024
oh. Mom spontaneously apologized for telling us to stop crying when we were younger and we went "oh. ah. I see." because we can't cry when we're genuinely upset unless we're at near meltdown state. there's like a wall there. and we went "that explains a lot. and also we forgive you." because again like. at this point we hold very little anger towards her for a lot of reasons. but just. children can either be incredibly resilient or incredibly fragile and it's all up to the adults in their life; as the child you don't get to choose which you are. and doesn't that suck? that you have no choice in how deeply you're affected?
#local birb opens beak#i am so reactive to that kind of behavior as well#any attempts to shut down a crying child#or stop a meltdown#make me FURIOUS#and now i understand#i dont remember in my brain#but my *body* remembers#and we're so protective of kids already#just that immediate NO you are NOT allowed to say that#kicks in#the way we cannot be around other people parenting small children for very long#it's so real#os#parental#emotional neglect#emotional abuse
