Parent Shaming & Stigma
Let’s all admit it there have been times where we all had different views on how and what should be done about children, even if they are not ours. Sometimes we open our mouth and vomit judgment and sometimes we sit quietly while our brain sits with a notepad and writes down all the ways that the parent your judging is doing it all wrong.
Well I have a headline for you: THERE IS NO WRONG WAY.
(well unless your an abusive parent, that is very wrong and I will judge you openly)
Who cares if you vaccinate or don’t vaccinate?
Why does it matter if someone decides to stay at home and mom all day or go to work all day?
Working isn’t ideal for everyone and for others it is. There are so many factors on why women choose to work or not to work.
Did you know most stay at home moms are home with their kids because that is what financially works for their family. Again I say THIER FAMILY. Not yours Kathy so step off your high horse and take a moment to breath in my living room.
For example, how old are thier children? It’s sometimes easier for a parent who decides to work to do it when their children are in school. Why? Great question. Not everyone wants to pay outstanding childcare rates. If you can more power too you, but personally if I was working right now, I would only have enough to cover childcare, or a little less than a enough.
Who cares if your formula feeding or breastfeeding?
Who cares if you decided to do a hospital birth or home birth?
Who cares if your kid eats cake for breakfast?
Mine did yesterday and guess what? They didn’t obliterate into peices. In fact they were great for most the day.
I also drank all my coffee without having to go 100 miles a minute because they were focused on what was in front of them.
Who gives a flying monkey of whether someone is 14 or 30 when they start a family?
Let’s just pull out a historical fact.
Women in the biblical times and for a while after got married and had children as young as 13 years old.
I get it. I get it. It’s not 4 BC, it’s 2018 and teen pregnancy is frowned upon blah blah blah.
“Most girls who become mothers drop out and get into more trouble than having a baby.”
Well I have a theory. Ready? Do you think if we empowered young mothers instead of throwing statistics at they they might have a higher success rate in life? Just a thought.
Who cares if you want to pop out four kids one after the other?
Why does it matter if a women gets a c-section or pushes a baby out of her hooha?
Why are we getting so much judgment on not making our own baby food, or going disposable over cloth diapering?
Does it matter if your an organic mom, hot mess mom, or PTA mom?
Answer? No. It doesn’t, all that matters is that you raise a decent and functioning kid.
Before you sit and judge or even worse vomit hateful things at a parent take a moment and think about a few things.
Maybe put the crowns away and try stepping down from this throne you’ve built up in order to feel untouchable.
Can you imagine how amazing the world would be if we all just decided not hand out judgment like free samples in the mall food court?
We are all trying our best.
And if you a mother having that feels like the world is against you today, know that I think your doing a amazing job.