(44) Men are taught from birth to wrongfully think of themselves as superior. Words are one of the tools to upset this male oriented worldview. Hurting his feelings with belittling insults and requiring him to repeat them about himself like a mantra has slowly changed his view of himself. Words have power. I love seeing him meditate to my picture each day chanting repeatedly. “I am only a slave. It is a privilege to serve.” The verbal barbs I hurl at him are aimed at his self-image of manliness that the “Phallocracy” has infused him with. I find that allowing myself the freedom to verbally abuse him is a very cathartic experience for me. Over time, I have weakened his old superior male view of himself and replaced it with a new much more beautiful ideal- that of the perfectly surrendered man. Repeating his mantra, meditating to my image, and humbling him at every opportunity have been more than a lifestyle. ************* This is a spiritual path that we both have chosen to follow. We both want a completely surrendered man to be all that is left after the refining fire of my discipline. I care about his feelings. I want him to feel loved and safe but I also want to maintain the pressure on him to change. When we have a feeling check he continues to give me permission to move forward. I love him for this. I remind myself when I make things hard and I start to feel sorry for him that this is the life that he begged me to give him. It’s up to me to make it real. I'm a lifestyle dominatrix and a female supremacist. Sorry I can't do a full frontal facial picture but my very public job demands that I remain very discreet. My clients already know me as a demanding feminist. They would really lose their minds if they also knew I was also a notorious dominatrix. One day our amazing lifestyle will come out of the closet. My life's work, my career, and my book serve to empower women. One day thinking people, even in the South, will accept FLR as they are starting to accept gay marriage. Even here, it is happening. We will need to add words to our language. I see Trans folk wrestling with language now. Some of them introduce themselves with, "My name is Joe, and I prefer him" or " I prefer the plural pronoun." I wonder what practitioners of FLR will do? I can see myself introducing my sub with, "This is Butler my service husband." It would let others know the hierarchy of our relationship and also that I'm not completely averse to the attentions of additional men. Oh, that would be a wonderful moment. I will have put him in his place while empowering myself with each introduction! This is all slowly happening.