"How did you know your wife was the right one?"
First of all, the idea of "The One" is bullshit. “I get it. We’re all looking for authentic connection. We as men crave that mix of freedom and fulfillment within a relationship. But I’ve found that we start to get into unhealthy territory when we focus on finding The One." Connor Beaton
This unrealistic idea only begets to suffering from ‘One-itis’... if we muck up the relationship, we will be doomed to wander the rest of our days lamenting the loss and never find that level of romance/commitment/passion/trust again. Bullshit. It is in your best interest to let go of that potentially damaging philosophy. It serves to only hurt your partner and /or you. I will never profess to know everything, but I do know that unless you feel rooted in yourself, unless you trust in yourself, and absolutely know you’ll be fine on your own... seeking the one will only cause anxiety, heartache and may make you sacrifice important aspects of yourself.
“You're not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn't perfect either. But the question is, whether or not you're perfect for each other. That's the whole deal. That's what intimacy is all about.” Good Will Hunting
