A lot of us get started with the practice when we’re in our edgy teen stages and are looking to get back at our middle school bullies. It never takes long for us to do our research and quickly get more sucked into the craft as a whole, and we forget about the curse we wanted to cast.
That being said curses and hexes are a part of magic, although they really shouldn’t be used without good cause. Most people who know about curses use their knowledge for detecting and breaking curses. That being said, we can’t ignore an aspect just because we don’t like it, or because it can be harmful, rather we need to share what information we have, and help each other think through what we’re doing before we hurt someone.
I imagine a lot of beginners would hear this and ask “Why not use curses, some people deserve it?” The simplest answer is because you shouldn’t use magic to solve all your problems and if someone truly deserves it, I’d recommend non-magical means to help them get what they deserve. Another good reason is because odds are, whatever you do will come back to bite you. This can be called karma, but I hear it more often called the threefold rule, which basically states whatever you do will come back to you three times over. So even if you’re casting a curse on someone who truly deserves it, are you prepared for the consequences?
If you find you absolutely must curse some one, then I’d stick to the idea of “confuse, don’t abuse.” Which is to say, mess with them for sure, but don’t actually hurt them. Some ways I’ve seen this put in practice is a curse to keep someone away from another person. I’ve used such a spell to help my friend avoid an abusive ex (note: never cast a spell that effects someone you know without their permission, it’s just rude.) Another way I’ve seen a curse done is to try and help someone realize what they’re doing wrong. I wrote a spell that I titled “You’re a dumbass” and have used only when I see someone doing things that are clearly wrong from and outside perspective, but they can’t seem to see it. This is without a doubt a curse, but one that’s not especially harmful, and I was prepared for my own flash of perspectives as a consequence when I used it.
Now we’re to the end of my rant when I put the “manly” spin on things. In this case I have very little spinning to do, curses are unisex, as are their consequences. What I will say for the more masculine is a warning. Generally when we’re raised in a more masculine in environment we’re taught to keep our emotions inside and bottled up. This can quickly be something we lose control over, which can lead to unintentional curses fueled entirely by our own anger. The solution here is simple, don’t hide your emotions. All emotions are healthy to express, including negative ones; If you have an issue with someone, talk to them about it. The problem you thought could only be solved with a curse may just be a miscommunication that spiraled out of control (yes that is speaking from experience).
That finishes up my ramble on enchantments. Practice safe and Ret'urcye mhi!
