#masculinity crisis

[rowanellis]

a video essay about the relationship between movies and the "masculinity crisis"

"The Rugged Cowboy, The Patriotic Soldier, and The Successful 1950s Husband. These ideal masculine archetypes are saturated into the heart of American culture... But, what if I told you these iconic American images are a lie?"

out now on youtube!

[k-wame]

lol gay men said what masculinity crisis 😭😭

[bluesky-out-of-context]

[steddieunderdogfics]

For challenge monday, a steddie fic that features Lucas Sinclair: "you were warm when everything was cold" by lesbianrobin on ao3

you were warm when everything was cold by lesbianrobin

@lesbianrobin

Rating: General Audiences

5,470 words, 1/1 chapters

Archive Warning: No Warnings

Tags: Lucas Sinclair-centric, Established Relationship, Masculinity Crisis, Sharing Clothes, Fluff

Summary:

There’s something about watching Steve and Eddie that makes his chest ache, just a little bit. Something that feels like it’s just out of reach, like if he could just jump an inch higher he could grasp it and know what it is, have a name for it, figure out what feels like it’s missing with Max. He never felt like something was missing with Max before. She was perfect. She is perfect! Like, sure, not actually perfect, because nobody’s actually perfect, but she’s perfect for him just like he hopes he’s perfect for her, and they’re perfect together. Maybe Lucas is overcompensating.

Thanks for the rec!

This rec is a part of Challenge Monday. The challenge this week was Lucas Sinclair as a Major Feature.

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[yeah-right92]

Ive noticed a trend lately on Tumblr and Reddit where people jokingly ask why conservative men tend to have this weird fetish with a glorious sacrifice in the name of something or someone they love (suicidal idoration) and figured Id try to put some words to it.

You see, as boys we grow up from little with this idea imprinted on us "you're a man! You are big and strong and you are the hero! Its your job to keep everyone around you safe and happy as the superhero! Master of the house!" This gets poured into our little heads from the media, from male role models in our life, even from moms (look at you! My big strong boy!) now kids need encouragement and praise to make them grow but what can seem innocent on the surface leaves a mark that can manifest as something worse later in life.

So we grow up with these ideas and reach that diffuse age where we "BECOME A MAN!" We get our different rituals handed down to us from our male role models to mark this transition, for some its a sharp line, a difference from boy to man clearly marked, for others its a sort of gradual thing where we feel expectations of us change with a clear idea of why, but whether we want to or not, now we are MEN!

So, now that we are MEN we must now be able to stand on our own, you have a problem? Fix it or fuck it! You have an enemy? Fight it! You hungry? Hunt food! Procreate! Spread your seed! Build your home!... You see the pattern? It doesnt have to be this overt (which you mostly see with toxic masculinity and its role models) but its there, even if you think your son, boyfriend,father doesnt buy into it, that subtle pressure is always there, you're a MAN ,MEN dont fail.

Now when things are good and we succeed this helps us grow, we are now MEN!

but when we dont, when things are not clear cut, when we fail, when we hurt or cause others to hurt, when things are out of our control, when we cant bring home the bacon, when we didnt fight back, when we where too sick or too weak or too sad to fight back we stop being MEN and instead become A FAILURE!

Again media and toxic role models will be happy to specify what A FAILURE! Is; he is the low man, he is the coward, he is the lazy oaf, he is the drunk, he is all of the above and more, but most importantly if he cannot succeed in turning things around within an arbitrary timeframe or conditions (which, who knows?) he becomes IRREDEEMABLE!

Now the FAILURE! is doomed to be so forever, no matter how he tries or acts or changes, he will always be the FAILURE! Because he didnt succeed the first time and he didnt succeed at his "redemption" the only recourse now for the FAILURE! Is....

THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE!

You see where this is going? You see, again media and masculine role models teaches us that if the FAILURE! Completes one last, heroic, noble act...or dies in the pursuit of it...all his past actions are wiped clean! he got to reload his saved game! He got the good ending! He is now again a MAN! To be born nobly to his grave on his shield while his loved ones weep gentle tears for him...he no longer has to struggle with being a man.

So when life is hard and not straight forward, when you feel youre not a good dad, when you dont understand your wife, when you cant work, when you got your ass kicked when you made dumb decisions and failed, or simply did your best and failed anyway, as we do in this life because its not that clear cut, then that idea, that ideal you, the MAN! Slips out of your grasp and you are not it anymore and it doesnt matter if your wife tells you that you didnt fail and it doesnt matter if someone helps you fix the problem because they dont understand the same way.

All men feel this sometimes, even the most well balanced ones and these notions of masculinity can lead you into depression really quick if they hit you hard enough, and conservative men feel that pressure twice as hard because of their worship of these masculine ideas and when they then cant solve their problems easily, or the problems just cant be solved they end up feeling that THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE! Is the only way to redeem themselves, either by walking out on everything (they'll be happier without me) killing themselves (at least they'll get the money) or throwing themselves into death or incarceration in the name of some ideal (at least they'll see i was a real MAN!)

What we are seeing now is a wave of consequences the current state of the world has on the masculine ideal; men cant feed their families because of lack of work and rising prices, evil men go un punished which we as MEN should be doing, there are wars and we cant keep our loved ones safe, the world is dying and WE ARE NOT SUPERMAN!

This hurts more than you think it does, silly little boys with their toys right? A real MAN wont buy into this toxic masculinity crap!

There is a reason some of our top selling media is just that (Red Dead Redemption 2, Band of Brothers) and thats where these "noble sacrifice" memes come from, these conservative men are not trying to be bad asses, they're depressed, they are choosing the ultimate sacrifice.

Go hug your dad, son, brother, husband, boyfriend and if you see someone thinking of making the ultimate sacrifice, please refer them to suicide prevention to get them help.

[triumphias]

Patriarchy, Masculinity Crisis, and Gender Roles | Triumph IAS 2026-27 | UPSC Sociology Optional

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[macro-pulse]

The Gender Gap Nobody Talks About

Why Guys Are More Likely to Be in Their Childhood Bedrooms

Spoiler alert: it’s complicated

Here’s something interesting that might surprise you - men are actually more likely to be living with their parents than women. We’re talking about a 5 percentage point difference, which might not sound like much, but it tells a bigger story.

Back in the 1960s, women were way more likely to move out early because, let’s be honest, society expected them to get married young and become housewives. Fast forward to today, and while we’ve (thankfully) moved past those expectations, some patterns still linger.

Guys today are more likely to struggle with economic independence. A 2011 study found that 22% of men aged 25-34 living with parents were unemployed, and more than half didn’t have college degrees. It’s not that men are lazier - it’s that the traditional “man as breadwinner” expectation hasn’t kept up with economic reality.

Women, on the other hand, tend to move out for different reasons even when money’s tight. They might be more willing to have roommates, more likely to prioritize independence even if it means financial stress, or better at finding support networks outside the family home.

There’s also the dating factor. Let’s be real - there’s still a stigma around dating someone who lives with their parents, and unfortunately, that stigma often hits men harder. It’s unfair, but it’s real.

The bottom line? Both men and women are struggling, just in different ways. The housing crisis doesn’t discriminate, but society’s expectations still do.

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