#masuclinity

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[shuttershed]

As a gay man - stop acting like a faggot and maybe other people wouldn't CALL you a faggot. Have you honestly ever thought of that? Grow up, mature as a person, understand that if you take words like that to heart you're the one in the wrong, not the person throwing it.

I’m assuming you’re referring to a video I put on Facebook a few weeks ago about being harassed on my own stoop two days after the presidential election. By a person I see every day. In a neighborhood where I’ve lived for two years and never been so much as looked at the wrong way.

If so, I have this to ask: How much time did you have on your hands that you dug around the internet long enough to find my Tumblr? And how much cowardice is in your heart that you decided the best way to address this issue was to hide behind a grey face and sunglasses and try to tell me I “act like a faggot” like you know me?

I don’t act like a faggot. Or like a jock. Or like a drag queen. Or like some butched up construction worker. I act like myself. Authentically, honestly, and without regrets. I’ve met people who say they knew I was gay before I opened my mouth. I’ve met people who thought I was straight until I mentioned dating guys or commented on a handsome stranger. Masculinity and femininity are social constructs that were created to make people like you conform to what they think other people will like. People like you, who probably crop their face out of their Grindr profile and say things like “No fats, no fems, no Asians.”

You don’t know me. And if you do, shame on you for approaching me this way. The only thing that makes me gay is the fact that I like men. No…I love men. All kinds of men.

So, I’m not entirely sure what kind of self-hating, masculinely fragile, ignorant, uneducated bull shit this is but you can take it right out the door.

[thepurpleyogacat-blog]

Emotions and masculinity.

As a feminist, something that really stands out to me is just how often, even in this day and age, acting in a certain way is seen as weakness. That way is “like a girl.” If a man shows a hint of passionate emotion, whether positive or negative, the phrase “Man up” gets used. Suggesting that as a man, they should be stronger. That they should be unbreakable. That emotions and masculinity are not and absolutely cannot be combined. If a man is doing any activity and maybe not doing a great job, he gets told he’s “playing/throwing/kicking/acting like a girl.” Being female or showing a “female” reaction is being communicated as an insult, and this is suggesting that something is wrong with an entire gender. A person should be able to act however they feel appropriate, without gender oppression coming into it.

I think that part of this issue comes down to the historical idea that the purpose of “the man” is for or protection, they protect the “weaker” more “feeble” women from danger as they are “unable” to fight for themselves. The suggestion that the man is the symbol of strength, a force field that cannot be broken, a concrete front that cannot crack. But as the wonderful Leonard Cohen said, “There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in”

Well let me tell you this. Women are strong. Men are strong. Women can fight. Men can fight. Women can dance. Men can dance. Women are capable beings. Men are capable beings. Almost everything one gender can do, other than the obvious biological differences, so can every other gender out there. However you identify, however proud you are of your gender, no one has the right to use your identity as an insult.

Men can be anxious, even behind the exterior society expects them to put up. Men can be sad, we just don’t always see it. A man is still a person, and any emotion is a human emotion, and therefore there is no reason a man shouldn’t feel able to show how they feel. Sometimes we forget this fact, and behind that tough exterior there is still a human fighting their way through this world in any way they can.

Emotions are not a feminine thing and should absolutely not be seen as one. An emotion is genderless.  This is something so simple, yet never considered.

Men are humans. Humans have brains. Brains have chemical responses and reactions to a situation. That is an emotion. That is the extent of it. The emotional state of our being does not see our self imposed gender stereotypes.  We’re all human at the end of the day, but yet to use the phrase “stop acting like a human” would be ridiculous!

[childishthatweknow]

Glad i'm at the age where masculinity doesn't define me

[thearbourist]

Rise Again RPOJ - The Marvellous Pow-ah of Straw Argumentation - an Illustrated Guide

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It shouldn't be extraordinary for men to talk about having body image issues.

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