#mate headcanon

[omegaverse-seeker]

Hi, I’m recently addicted to A/B/O that I went on a binge. Now I’m confused about bonding and mating since the writers were pretty loose on the terminologies that I wasn’t able to get a clear picture of these practices. Are they different? Which one is permanent?

So the way it works in my verse is that:

Bonding - This is when mates during heat or rut (the time when a dynamic is ovulating or just super-duper horny essentially) take the time to bite one another to create a bond. Now this bond is either just a mark, telepathic, empathic, or mirror-touch synesthesia. 

Mating - Is just another word for sex. It could be sex that’s specifically happening during a rut or heat. 

[omegaverse-seeker]

If a mate dies, could the widow have another chance of love or will stay alone until death?

Depends on your AU.

There are different ways people use and describe bonds:

Bonds are simply like a ring or tattoo that says you two are a couple. 

Bonds are a spiritual bond, meaning mind, body, and soul are interlinked. 

Bonds are a physical bond and emotions are separate.

Bonds are an emotional bond and physical are separate.

Bonds are marks that tell others that you are claimed. 

Here are some different scenarios I’ve personally seen with a mate dying:

Mate dies and living mate is sick for a period of time, taking time to heal. 

Mate dies and living mate still has a lingering bond that stays until they are mated again.

Mate dies and living mate also dies. 

Mate dies and living mate grieves as anyone else would.

Mate dies and living mate will always have that bond and can never bond with someone else. 

Mate dies and living mate’s bond slowly heals and all trace of the first mate is gone.

Really this is something that is pretty touch and go in peoples’ omegaverse. It depends on your worldbuilding, level of angst, and what your overall plot is. I personally use a lot of different scenarios for the sake of angst because I am a demon who hates herself.

[omegaverse-seeker]

What does it feel like to be bonded to another person? What are the effects of the bond?

I imagine it being a comfortable weight on top of your heart. You know those sensory blankets that you can get that are weighted? I imagine that being on one’s heart. That weight that a person feels on/in their heart is the attachment/bond that they have with their mate. 

The effects vary from au to au. Personally I think the effects are almost on a psychic level, like telepathy. Mates are able to feel the others emotions almost always. The mates are able to send and share emotions with one another too whenever they want too. 

I feel like this stems off the whole werewolf thing. Since it’s supernatural. At times of distress or danger a mate can warn their mate of the danger and call for help or help them keep calm with influencing good emotion. And things of the like. 

I hope that this explanation is good!