#mating headcanon

[omegaverse-seeker]

Any headcannons for traditional courtship displays/activities an alpha and omega might do together or for one another? Ones that might have been more popular before tvs and such lol

I really don't think I know much about what courting practices there are irl. Lol. Bare with me.

A lot of courting practices would involve scent.

^ the person scenting an article of clothing for their s/o to wear or just have so the other could get used to their smell.

^^ gifting things to the other with similar scents to each other

for either or, they show their s/o skills. maybe cooking a dish for the other, singing to them, or something of along those lines.

there would be the standard gifts that couples give one another; flowers, jewelry, and related things.

dates again would be common, do whatever to have fun together.

i do think that the couples would introduce the other to their pack/family sooner than we do irl.

a scenting day sounds cute to me, before they date officially maybe they scent each other to see how the other fairs out. cause it could be possible that the other person just doesn't like the other's scent you know?

maybe there's like tests and stuff to see if the couples' pheromones even mix well

I do like the thought of them having a date that lasts a weekend or like two days. like them navigating how the other is and stuff

That's all I can think of. Lol

[omegaverse-seeker]

I have a few questions but i cannot seem to find anywhere to get the answers i am seeking. So here they are hopefully you can help. First does a mating mark have to be on the neck or can it be on the wrist? Second, do the mating marks have to look like a bite or can we be creative and use something significant to the Alpha and Omega? Third can a bonding happen outside of the heat cycle, like something actively chosen.

I think a mating mark on the wrist is interesting! I don't see why you can't have it there. I can imagine that a bond bite on the wrist could be considered "possessive" or "intimate". It's something you can see straight away.

They can look like whatever you want them to look like. Lol. A bite mark is just the standard, but it's not a must.

It depends on what you are trying to do. So sure, a bond can be made outside of estrus. I also think that doing that would cause a shared heat/rut to happen.

[omegaverse-seeker]

Hi, I’m recently addicted to A/B/O that I went on a binge. Now I’m confused about bonding and mating since the writers were pretty loose on the terminologies that I wasn’t able to get a clear picture of these practices. Are they different? Which one is permanent?

So the way it works in my verse is that:

Bonding - This is when mates during heat or rut (the time when a dynamic is ovulating or just super-duper horny essentially) take the time to bite one another to create a bond. Now this bond is either just a mark, telepathic, empathic, or mirror-touch synesthesia. 

Mating - Is just another word for sex. It could be sex that’s specifically happening during a rut or heat. 

[omegaverse-seeker]

If a mate dies, could the widow have another chance of love or will stay alone until death?

Depends on your AU.

There are different ways people use and describe bonds:

Bonds are simply like a ring or tattoo that says you two are a couple. 

Bonds are a spiritual bond, meaning mind, body, and soul are interlinked. 

Bonds are a physical bond and emotions are separate.

Bonds are an emotional bond and physical are separate.

Bonds are marks that tell others that you are claimed. 

Here are some different scenarios I’ve personally seen with a mate dying:

Mate dies and living mate is sick for a period of time, taking time to heal. 

Mate dies and living mate still has a lingering bond that stays until they are mated again.

Mate dies and living mate also dies. 

Mate dies and living mate grieves as anyone else would.

Mate dies and living mate will always have that bond and can never bond with someone else. 

Mate dies and living mate’s bond slowly heals and all trace of the first mate is gone.

Really this is something that is pretty touch and go in peoples’ omegaverse. It depends on your worldbuilding, level of angst, and what your overall plot is. I personally use a lot of different scenarios for the sake of angst because I am a demon who hates herself.

[omegaverse-seeker]

An omega really wanting to build a nest for their first time with their alpha but they have chronic pain and moving sometimes hurts so the day before their heat their alpha says they have a surprise for them and the alpha carries the omega out to the living room and it turns out the alpha built an entire nest for their omega and the omega just breaks down in tears and the alpha cuddles them in it for a long time in preparation for their heat.

I CRY AT THIS 

FUCK ME UP

I AM DEAD 

AHHHHHH

THAT SWEET ALPHA BEING SO GOOD TO THEIR FRAGILE LOVING OMEGA 

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH