Forgive others (and yourself) and set yourself free
Forgiveness is an act of self-liberation more than anything. You don’t forgive another for the sake of being a self-righteous saint, you forgive to release the burden of resentment from your heart. Think about all of the grudges you may be holding right now. What can you do to find peace through forgiveness? Keep in mind that it is healthy for you to also show self-forgiveness. Read more about practicing forgiveness if you need help.
** Forgiving one does not mean you have to allow them back into your life on a close scale ( unless the universe sees fit for you and that person and you just need space to heal the wound)
You can keep them at a distance, and keep it cordial. **
I am still working on healing from the individual traumatic events but I forgive myself for choosing my college boyfriend as a romantic partner as well as the person who followed. I forgive them for not understanding their own demons at the time and letting them run rampant in our relationship and abusing me. If either were in trouble and I could extend help, i would. However, I on my own won’t reach out for shits and giggles to check in...I personally see no point. We have continuously grown in different directions and they are still feeding their demons. I’d be setting myself up for relapse reaching out knowing what I know.
