But here is what the mystics across era, civilisation, religion and tribes also understood: you cannot access the sacred gateway of relationship while your wounds are running the show. You cannot see the divine in your beloved when you are stuck projecting your mother or your father. You cannot experience the in-between when your nervous system is in survival mode. This path of relationship requires to meet your conditionings guarding the threshold, and honestly facing your shadow, integrating your wounds, reclaiming your wholeness, so that you can show up to your beloved as a full human being rather than a fragmented gremlin, asking to be rescued.
— Malcolm Fraser














