honestly im scared of changing mine cause of my family too but i want it to be my legal name before i go and try to get a job yknow ; _ ;
god yeah same. i always look to my mum for help with legal stuff if i feel too anxious to do it and i feel like i can't do that if she knows i legally changed my name - i wouldn't be able to ask her for help bc it'd be awkward and i don't wanna have that conversation? i don't want her to hate me or tell the rest of my family, not as if they'd ever stop addressing me by my birth name anyway
part of me's scared about that but also that's such an unfair way to think tho, on ourselves? we have a choice in how ppl address us, especially in workplaces or with ppl outside of family. fuck em honestly they’re not worth the stress.......we should do what makes us comfortable when we feel able to