Hi, so I was thinking of angst and comfort with Lysander and Armin and if it's not to much Castiel to, about being insecure in the relationship, maybe because it's a new relationship and they don't know how to tell them and how they would react. I don't know if you're taking request, but I love your writing❤️❤️ bye, and thank you!
Being insecure in a relationship- Lysander, Castiel, Armin
Hey anon! Wasn’t sure if you meant being insecure with the boys or the boys themselves being insecure so i wrote both!
Being insecure with Lysander
I think Lysander is probably the boyfriend you’d feel the least insecure with, he’s already constantly reassuring you and making it known how much he adores you, and it’s not something he’s doing on purpose either. It just kind of comes natural to him. He’s very much a “I only have eyes for y/n” and he makes that very clear!
If for whatever reason you are feeling insecure, you never have to be afraid or nervous to tell Lys, he’s a very understanding and empathetic man. It may catch him off guard a bit, because it should be obvious how much he adores you. But he won’t ever be upset with you, and instead may wonder what he did to make you feel that way. He would hate it if he crossed a boundary or maybe neglected you in some way!
But I guess it also depends on what you were feeling insecure about specifically. Were you jealous of someone? Maybe feeling insecure about yourself?
If you’re feeling badly about yourself he would immediately stop what he’s doing to cup your face with his hands and look at you with a softness in his eyes, “My dear you never have to feel that way around me, you’re truly perfect the way you are and I love every part of you no matter what.”
If you’re simply feeling jealous or a little insecure in the relationship he thinks it’s a bit cute and will still reassure you, he may think it’s a bit silly but he also understands that human emotions are funny like that. “I only have eyes for you, love. I promise.”
Lysander being insecure
I think Lysander is someone who is for the most part, very sure of themselves. I think it’s a bit difficult to get him feeling really insecure. Jealous, sure. We’ve seen our man get jealous quite quickly throughout the story. But if he was insecure I think it would stem more from him feeling like he isn’t enough for you, or maybe he isn’t satisfying your needs in the relationship.
He knows moving from the city life to farm life within the span of a few months is quite the change, so sometimes he finds himself wondering if you truly are enjoying life with him on the farm like you say you are. He knows you sometimes miss the city and being close to your friends, and he feels a bit sad that he can’t exactly provide that seeing as you guys are four hours away from it all.
I think he wouldn’t be afraid to bring it up, but more so just afraid of your answer. The last thing he’d want to hear is that you aren’t happy here, and that you may want to leave because of it. “Y/N, are you happy here? Are you happy with me, on the farm, living a quiet village life?” Truly, this man would do anything to keep a smile on your face. God, I love him.
I think Lysander would respond well to reassurance with words. You sitting him down, looking him in the eyes and confirming you’re happy with him. And then maybe a sweet soft kiss on the lips to let him know you love him.
Being insecure with Castiel
With Castiel there’s definitely more cause to get a little jealous, insecure. He’s got a shit ton of fangirls that are just jumping at the chance to get at him, so it can be a bit overwhelming at times! Now I don’t think Castiel would entertain any of that, he would try to keep it as polite as possible with his fans while also having firm boundaries. So I don’t think it’s the fans who make you insecure. I think it would be a fellow artist. Specifically a female artist.
Castiel can get pretty passionate when it comes to music, and if he collaborates with an artist that he really clicks with he can get really excited and will talk about it quite frequently, because he just wants to tell you everything. But he doesn’t realize it can come off a bit… aggravating to hear him talking so highly of another girl all the time? “She’s awesome and super talented, you gotta meet her sometime. And did you know she- blah blah blah.” And of course in this case it wouldn’t help if she’s like, super fucking pretty??
He really is not doing it in a malicious way, poor guys genuinely just really excited about the new music they’ve got in the works lol. I think when you tell him how you’re feeling at first he’s a bit taken aback, and maybe even a little confused but then you bring up how he’s constantly talking about her and he’s just kinda mentally like “...Ooooh shit.”
His first instinct is to tease you about it but depending on how upset you are he’ll be more mature about it. “I’m sorry baby, I didn’t mean to make you feel insecure. I can see how that might've been upsetting for you. I’m just really excited about what we’ve been working on.” He’ll peck you on the lips and then embrace you while smothering your neck with kisses. "...But it's cute that you're jealous."
Castiel being insecure
I think Castiel can be a bit insecure due to the fact that he’s away a LOT due to the band. That leaves plenty of time and space for you to find someone else. And he doesn’t want to be that guy but sometimes he does have a small voice in the back of his head wondering if you’ve cheated on him at all during those times he was gone. See, he KNOWS he can trust you. But the poor man has a tad bit of anxiety. He would never accuse you though unless he had solid evidence or reason.
I think he would just be insecure because he isn’t there for you the way he wants to be, and that really does eat him up inside. He tries to make up for it by sending gifts, letters, flowers, chocolates etc. allll the time.
But because he is kind of an idiot, I don’t think he would ask for reassurance, I think he would jump straight to giving you the opportunity to dump him lmfao “Y/N, I know me being gone is hard on you sometimes. And I don’t want to hold you back, so if this isn’t something you want to do anymore I completely understand and respect your decision.” Ughhhh he’s so dumb.
I think he would really appreciate physical reassurance along with verbal, because it helps him feel safe and loved when you wrap your arms around him and hold him tight.
Being insecure with Armin
Armin is a great boyfriend, he’s funny, he’s sweet, and is so charismatic. So charismatic in fact, that it sometimes can come across to other people as him being flirtatious. And the most annoying part is that he doesn’t even realize he’s doing it because…well, he isn’t! To him, he’s just having a casual conversation with a girl who is interested in playing DnD, but little does he know (and so, SO obvious to anyone watching), the girl is clearly just trying to get him to take an interest in her. The way she’s twirling her hair and slightly poking out her chest… Armin PLEASE-
But, thankfully, he is also the kind of guy to “my girlfriend this, my girlfriend that…” so at some point during this conversation he’s probably like “You know what, you and my girlfriend should talk about this some more because she would love to have another girl to play with!” He turns around to look for you in the store and motions over when he spots you, “Hey babe, come here real quick!” It definitely shuts down whatever insecurity you were feeling, and it DEFINITELY discourages the girl from trying to make any more moves.
Being insecure with Armin in my opinion is something you may deal with simply because I feel like he would have a lot of female friends. But at the end of the day they are JUST friends and he makes sure to let you know that. He may be a bit annoyed at first, because “Why would you be insecure? I’m obsessed with you woman!” But he would never be upset with you, and will still do whatever he needs to do to reassure you that you’re the only one he wants. Careful though, he’s kind of a little shit. “....You’re kinda hot when you’re jealous though, babe~”
Armin being insecure
I think Armin gets pretty jealous quite easily. It’s not hard for him to start shooting daggers at anyone who looks at his girl even slightly too long. A bit problematic, but he’s working on it!! Very quick to get grumpy if he thinks you were a little too friendly with another guy lol like i said, working on it. He has gotten better!
I feel like Armin would be most insecure of the possibility of you finding another, a BETTER boyfriend than him. He knows he kind of messed up in the past with you guys and he is constantly worrying about if he’s doing okay this time around, if what he’s doing is enough for you. I feel like he wouldn’t be afraid to address it, he would bring it up immediately and very casually. Kind of often as well, like once every couple of weeks. “Are we doing okay, hon?”
“Do you need anything, baby?” “I just wanna make sure I’m keeping you happy, I don’t want to lose you again…” He’s so cute dkfjkdfjls
Honestly, just start reassuring him by thanking him, making him feel appreciated by all he’s done, and is continuously doing for you. It helps him know he’s doing something right and he enjoys making his girl the happiest in the world, so it’s a win for everyone. Maybe even return the favor once in a while, do something nice for him too!
