#me preaching thoughts

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Self love is literally mastering the skill of self honouring.

You learn not to self-abandon in the name anything, or for anyone.

You wanting a need met (whatever is the need) should never be a reason for you to self abandon. The action itself contradicts the purpose.

The point is to love and honour yourself, not abandon yourself in the name of love or acceptance.

There are healthier ways to meet your needs, where it doesn’t have to involve you abandoning yourself to feel worthy or loved.

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So today i was thinking of something then i uttered a sentence “It’s easier to demand for something than to do it yourself” and it all clicked for me. Because you have to actually embody a thing for you to be able to get it in return. Not the other way around. It has to be within you in the first place for you to be able to recognise it, give it the recognition it needs.

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Its like the whole collective is chasing something, i cant fully grasp what it is .. is it self worth? Seeking validation? Getting themselves overly distracted and the overconsumption? Is it avoiding to sit down alone with their thoughts? Feelings? Chasing ideas and concepts of perfection that donot fucking exist, wtf is it? Ugh

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I think the statement “kids whom seek love in the most unlovable way are the ones who need it most” goes for adults too. And I’ve noticed that it often goes hand in hand with denial, denial for vulnerability. They reject the idea that they could, in fact be hurt. (And there’s nothing wrong with that, there’s no escaping the mind in the human conditioning, in the human experience, this is how life on earth is meant to be) but they deny whatever that is said to them concerning vulnerability. so much, they are unaware of that shadow. I personally carry enough empathy within me to notice the need, understand it, understand the actions that say the exact opposite. I try to coexist harmoniously, although they could caress a wrong nerve here and there, but I do understand but I also understand that I am not a God. I’m not meant to save anyone, (even the divine cannot help you if you’re not willing to help yourself and do half the work) We humans are only meant to hold each other’s hands while we heal ourselves… and there’s an honour, a beautiful grace in walking through life lovingly with people whom we are lucky enough to experience such a journey with..

So, I will cut them off after I patiently seek connection, and notice there’s in fact, not enough humility and vulnerability within them. cause I love me first, and I like to remind myself that not everyone has a heart and mind that operates the same as mine. Which is ok, but not within my life experience. I’ve seen you, i’ve accepted you, and have to put you exactly where you belong, outside of my life.

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Maturing emotionally and bypassing my own mother, where I can recognise her woundings, her tip-toeing around emotions (not knowing how to feel them) and false beliefs around all of that was not in my plan when I chose growth and healing.

Also, i am learning to leave people where they are emotionally, spiritually, mentally, i am not responsible of anyone’s emotional wellbeing. learning to coexist in harmony.

I understand her role in my life, i understand that even if we’re alive together, we’re on different wavelengths. And thats okay. To each their own.

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These couple of days I’m noticing that sometimes we get caught up in what would our partner offer for us. But that’s rather the result, bloom, of being *together*. Of being grateful of the life that is created together, which is not an entitlement, but an honour.

And I’m learning;

It’s not anyone’s responsibility to make you feel happy, good about yourself, life. That’s on you. What is, is that you both get to experience the honour of sharing or walking a path in life *together* temporarily.

and -if- both willing to put in the inner work, from within self to within the relationship, it could last a lifetime. (Luck in not an element here, pouring into a relationship is work, that is conscious, a choice)

You meet halfway, willingly, respectfully, lovingly, tenderly, humbly, harmoniously to create your world *together* there. While respecting each other’s lives, separate selves, needs, wants, future strives. And compromise when needed, willingly, vocally, openly, consciously, lovingly, for the benefit of both the feminine and the masculine, respecting both parties.

Anything that requires one person to neglect themselves for ‘the relationship’. It turns from a harmonic dynamic to a power dynamic. (Which is a form the ego thrives in //which is another subject for another day//)

Much like love to oneself needs intentional work, to pour into thyself out of love, awe, to your essence. in awe to the human experience.

The bond with Source needs conscious acts. Where you connect with Source cause you respect the soul, that is of light.

a relationship is two persons’ responsibility, where you pour into each other, lovingly, in awe to the harmonious life you’ve created *together* in awe to the human experience, to the feminine, masculine energies that you carry within, to Source, to life itself.

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Once the feminine and masculine is balanced and in harmony within the selves and within the relationship. a godly experience that is. To be absolute. To be god in motion in human form. To be in tune with the frequency of life, uggggghhhh, a dream

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A question; what do we do with all the free time we get from the shortcuts and quick fixes for everything? More time to enjoy the experience of human life, I hope