Mar 20, 2021
Yea i defo agree i think girlboss was ruined the moment they added other stuff to it i want to go back
Where is the off button on this ride?
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Yea i defo agree i think girlboss was ruined the moment they added other stuff to it i want to go back
Where is the off button on this ride?
Throwing my 2 cents into the girlboss/gaslight thing, it lowkey feeds into the mindset of women can't be abusers which is obviously not true. For shame cuz just the girlboss thing is great
I did not think about it that way... it kinda does. Oof.
I'm big same on the meme bugging me. Not just for the gaslighting joke but the gatekeeping joke too. Cuz it just reads as high key exclusionist style joke and I feel like it's joking about things we very much should not be joking about. Idk maybe I'm triggered easily because of being a victim of both of those things on the constant for literal decades, but it seems like the kind of thing to use more as a "I should avoid this person from now on" warning sign rather than "haha funny".
Oh no, fair point! And it does I mean it feels like it's watering around the meaning of the word (kind of like how the word "toxic" and "abuse" have been watered down and people have a hard time telling if people are just toxic or if they are ACTUALLY abusers).
Big same, it makes me uncomfortable. It's also possible why these people might not find them triggering or touchy subjects if they haven't thought about the meaning behind gatekeeping and gaslighting maybe. I think that's me being hopeful though
i do think it should always be warned for (and recognize that it often isn't, which is v frustrating), but i honestly really like the gaslight gatekeep girlboss meme because it means people are finally recognizing that the concept of "girlboss" as aspirational figure is extremely messed up. female bosses aren't any less abusive than male ones, and success shouldn't be tied to your ability to hold massive coercive power over others.
Oh agreed. I mean don't get me wrong I love power dynamic in fiction and roleplay but real power dynamics like that of a boss to an employee? Coercive power and money and such over people? Blah.
I agree that the gaslighting meme is off-putting, in the wild. One thing I feel like I wanna contribute is how memes that are kinda yikes! To just randomly see, are also a lot different when coming from friends I know and trust.
My friends and I will make these sorts of meme jokes on call or as shitposts just for a small group, and im a lot more comfortable with them then, because ik all my friends and trust them to know the language and what it really means. Its more a play off the meme itself and mocking the meme than using it seriously?
And I think some posts that use it are using it in the context of "these words are often misused or poorly applied and I am making fun of that aspect of the internet, not the terms themselves"
I just have a lot of thoughts and felt like contributing, not trying to argue your discomfort for the record! Because I totally get it, seeing memes use these sorts of things can be uncomfortable, especially the way this one and similar ones are done. And definitely not all of the ones that are made are done with good faith and knowing the actual issues behind the words.
Oh no absolutely! I mean there are things I joke about (I have a fairly bad sense of humor and dark one djabandbf) and if anyone else heard me making these jokes besides close friends they would assume I'm a little. Ya know. Out there. Or I'm trying to be offensive.
But if I'm around people I know will get it I tend to say them because I KNOW they know I'm joking and I'm not being serious.
In small groups or people I know well enough I can see this working and totally being good! Is it possible that's maybe how this meme started and maybe people took it really far?
No offense taken! Just because something makes me squicky doesn't mean it has to make you as well! I'm just in the middle where I'm unsure how to feel about it LMAO.
Just so y'all know bode was 1000 times funnier than unit will ever be :/
Hey how about instead of talking about monosexual discourse we listen to quality music instead