Deep breath. I can do this.
This weekend at the SCA event I attended there was a very special memorial service after feast.
The Viking ship shown was handmade by one of the friends of the person being remembered.
My very dear best friend got to say goodbye to her husband who passed away in March from a clotting disorder, with a “traditionial” Viking Funeral. She invited others to add the names of those we’ve lost this year to the ship.
I had two disks in the ship. One bearing the name of my grandfather who passed away in May. The other was a special thing that my friend encouraged me to do. The other disk bore the name of metal-queer-solid from here on tumblr. He was one of the first people who I talked to when I joined. So his info was on a disk as well.
There was a 70 minute memorial to my friend’s late husband and his time in the SCA and in general. I am in the process of uploading the video. As a part of the memorial people who knew Malcolm got to share poetry and stories of his time in the SCA and in general. His wife shared stories about their lives together. The ship and it’s names was burned in the hearth with bowls of sea salted water a substitute for the ocean or the event site pond, due to poor weather and bitter cold.
Some of Malcolm’s ashes were on the ship as well.
As I know many of you knew mqs I figured you would want to know that this happened. My friend actually suggested I add Ben’s name to the ship, so I did.
The memorial also included a dear friend singing Heather Dale’s - Measure of a Man.
Part 1 of the Memorial can be viewed here part 2 is here:
It’s casual and fun and sad and I apologize for the shaky camera. I’m trying to not snuffle, hold the camera, and keep a hand on my friend - volume shifts because the room is not conducive to great acoustics.
@meatymurdermachine - thank you for giving me the info on Saturday night when I needed it. You’ll be the best I can tag for this. @ladynai because you weren’t there. I know you’d want to see this. @evil-shenanigans-alpha because you’re family to me and to her as well (because I can’t tag Ben)
This is exactly how a proper funeral/memorial should be!