So. I usually ignore Bridgerton stuff that comes up on FB because, first it's FB, and second it's usually things like - rank the seasons or which male lead was hottest - and it usually descends into the 9th level of hell.
But today, someone posed - which mmc was most obsessed with his wife. And, the majority of people answered Anthony. And interestingly, I don't think they're wrong - though I'm not sure I could pinpoint exactly why. But...
Someone wrote - Anthony is the most obsessed but Colin is the most devoted. And I was like, boom - there we go. That's a good observation. the difference being that obsession is about pleasing one's self, but devotion is about pleasing the other person.
And then, of course, someone else commented the tired argument - so devoted that he wanted to marry her cousin first. And, you know, eye roll at the obligatory marina comment. But then it got me thinking that... that's the crux of it, right?
That these people don't like Polin, and don't like Colin -- it's that he wasn't obsessed with her from the moment they met (which, to me, he shouldn't have been since they were literal children). But is that what these people want in a relationship? Obsession isn't healthy. And I guess I'm not big on codependency or loss of individualism. And in fact, one of the disappointing things (to me) about Season 4 was Colin's loss of a personality outside his devotion to his wife.
But also, love is still real if it grows and changes. I just think the idea of needing someone to be obsessed with you from the start to the point that that's their whole identity is an immature and unrealistic ideal.
Also, obligatory comment about Anthony being so obsessed that he would have totally still married Edwina had she not called it off. (Another eye-roll)
