how to tell if your kin or if its just an hyperfixation??
I wish I had a proper answer for your question — it’s hard to say since a lot of people experience kin in different ways. I’m also not the best authority since I’m not a person who is predisposed to have hyperfixations, but I can certainly give you a few ideas that might help you!
The primary thing for me that helps me fully recognize whether or not I’m kin (in case of a specific situation which I like to call Your Wife or Your Life) is whether or not I experience any form of kin memories for that character, creature or other. Kin memories can range in many different forms, but for me specifically it comes naturally when I get into the headspace of that character. Sometimes I can just sit down and start writing and my mind just starts to supply me with the memories as I try to put them in a more concrete form.
I do, however, have some kins which lack memories (at least in any concrete form). For those I can mainly tell because I have such a strong connection that just feels right. It’s like I know in my subconscious, so I just listen to that part of me.
If you want to try something a bit more involved to see if you can recall memories or confirm a kin, I would recommend trying past life regression meditation. There are a lot of really good guiding audios on youtube that you can follow for it!
Ultimately, it’s you who knows the answer to this the best, you just might have to do some searching and thinking on it to be sure of it. There’s also nothing wrong with coming to a conclusion and later recognizing it wasn’t quite right. Like I said before, the experiences can vary quite a bit! Just do what feels right to you!
I hope I’ve helped at least a little!