#mod carmel

[acejews]

WELL THIS IS THE BEST THING I’VE EVER SEEN

(credit to the creator of this, screlbish, who originally posted this on the jaces facebook group in reference to this story)

[acejews]

ace jewish problems:

"hmm i wanna listen to some hozier"

my Church offers no absolution

she says worship in the bedroom

"hmm i no longer wanna listen to some hozier"

[acejews]

hey this is a slightly random question but i am quite musically anhedonic and the other asexual person i know also experiences this so i was wondering if they're at all related, can i ask about your a/sexuality and emotional response to music or lack thereof?

please reblog, thank you!

[acejews]

happy new year to all our phenomenal ace followers!!

may 2015 be a year filled with pride in our identities and happiness in ourselves.

[acejews]

Hi guys! I'm the original mod, mod Carmel (my Hebrew name), and I felt like I should do a more comprehensive introduction. I can waffle a bit so I'm sorry if this is wordy!

I'm 16, and I'm a cisgender allo/demiromantic (unsure) girl. I realised I was asexual three months ago, although I identified as demisexual for three months before that (out of not really knowing what sexual attraction was).

I live in England so I'm on GMT, but I'm kind of a night owl, so you'll see a lot of me :)

I'm pretty religious, and also I have ok-ish text skills. My religious blog is here, if you want to know more about that side of me. My family are not very religious - I was raised Reform.

I can't have a fulfilling romantic or sexual relationship (even if I wanted one) as long as I remain committed to observant Judaism, which really has a big impact on how I experience my asexuality and the intersection of that with my religion - more about this under the cut because it's sort of a long story and not very relevant.

In Jewish law there's a concept of mamzeirut (this is the noun form; I am a mamzeret, which is the feminine adjectival form, and a man or boy would be a mamzer). A good explanation of that is here.

Basically, any children of a prohibited union (incest or adultery - not a kohen marrying a divorced woman, though, and not an unmarried couple, and not an interfaith couple) are mamzerim (masc. or mixed-gender plural). A mamzer/et cannot, according to Jewish law, marry someone who is not a mamzer and is not a convert. If a mamzer/et has children, these children are mamzerim.

My great-grandmother didn't divorce her first husband according to Jewish law before she married my great-grandfather, and that side of my family since then have married in Reform synagogues (which don't recognise this law), so I am a mamzeret, so according to Jewish law I can't get married unless it is to another mamzer (we are quite rare, since it's kind of a really sad place to be, so the rabbinate do everything in their power to stop this being a valid condition in each individual case) or a convert.

Feel free to ask any questions you have.

[acejews]

Hi! I'm asexual and Jewish and I recently wrote something about being asexual for the blog SOJOURN which is a southern Jewish gender and sexual diversity organization. I was wondering if you might be interested in linking it? Don't feel any pressure to, but if you're interested let me know. Thanks for creating such an amazing community space :)

that would be great, we’re always looking for material! after a cursory google, i can’t find it, so if you could send us a link that would be great! thank you again and kol hakavod on your piece!

— original mod (i guess you can call me Carmel, which is my Hebrew name)

[acejews]

Hey :) Following for the Jew half as I'm not ace, what kind of Jew are you, if you don't mind me asking [orthodox, secular, reform, traditional, Ashkenazi, Sephardi, etc]?

(i mean i do have a purely jewish blog, eishet-lapidot, if you are looking for a jewish blog)

I’m:

observant (modern orthodox would probably be closest to where I feel right now, if you want a denomination)

a feminist (this plays into my Judaism in so many ways)

Ashkenazi (Lithuanian and Russian descent on one side, yekke [German] on the other, but we’ve been in England for 5 generations)

a BT (= “ba’alat teshuva”; feminine form, denotes that my family aren’t observant, but I’m trying to be).

Slightly off-topic, but: I worry that this gives me a super one-sided view of ace Jewish things, so for this and other reasons, other mods are so welcome.

I feel like I’m not doing a fantastic job of representing Jewish diversity, being as I’m only one person…