#mod cece talks

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Addendum to the rules.

Apparently I had forgotten and it wasn't exactly common sense that describing serious abuse/harm/death you've enacted on an animal is very against what we're doing here.

To be safe, I've included humans in the new rule just in case.

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Hi suggestion, you're probably going to want to add "beastiality" to the no go list

oh shit real good point! thanks so much nonny :)

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this blog is on undefinite hiatus. all asks currently in the inbox will be deleted, and the inbox will be closed. i'm sorry for the inconvnience.

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vent confession. tw assault, transphobia, homophobia- no graphic descriptions i'm a trans guy. i've apparently been visibly queer since i was like 5 and it was a problem my entire k-12 even tho i didn't even come out until college. one of the worst things was in middle school, how some of the girls would treat me in the locker room. the older girls thought it was okay to push me around, and i had to remind them all the time that i was small but fierce; if they hit me, i would find the strength to hit them back twice as hard. i fought every time they tried to grope me, too, acting like it was some kind of friendly gesture even after i told them repeatedly i didn't want to be touched that way, in those places. the girls my age copied them and added it to their existing bullying repertoire. they would humiliate me and try to hurt me when their words distracted me. at the time, i thought i handled it well because i was never "truly" sexually assaulted, but those times stuck with me. i remember the mean things they said to me still, the half second of fear when my husband approaches me from behind while i'm undressing to this day.. but nobody wants to believe a bunch of little cis girls would do that to someone, so i can't talk about it to anyone. i can't bear to have my pain minimized and laughed at again...

I normally respond to these in the tags, but this one resonated with me in a way I can't truly describe. Nonny, there are people out there who CAN and WILL believe you, people who, if they DON'T, deserve to be cut out of your file, no matter who they are. You really have gone through something awful, but what happened to you is not uncommon, and there is no doubt about it that there are people who will believe you. This isn't an urge to go out and tell everybody, because at the end of the day, it's your choice who to tell, but I do promise you there are people who've been through the same and if people believe them, they'll believe you too. Stay safe, and I hope you'll be okay.

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Sometimes I wonder if it’s just me and the same 4 people sending you anons

Sometimes I wonder that too, nonny. ❤️

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My significant other is my biggest regret, even though they're the most important person in my life and I love them dearly. When we first met, I was out in queer circles but closeted everywhere else, so they knew me by my queer name. They introduced me to their family by my queer name, without checking if I wanted to be known by my queer name or my public name. It was a simple mistake by someone who hadn't had much interaction with another queer person, and they apologized sincerely when we talked about how they should've confirmed before namedropping me. This wouldn't have become a larger issue except their little sister was in my mom's class (my mom is a teacher) at the time and accidentally named me with the wrong name to her. It was a mess to handle and I have to be way more careful / restrictive about how I talk about myself and what I do at home now. I used to be able to be pretty gender-neutral with my language, which made living publically as not my gender doable / tolerable. But now every time I refer to myself neutrally, my mom jumps into this "are you trans??? Am I going to have to be a mom of a trans person????? Do you have something to tell me????? Are you hiding anything from me?????" spiraling confrontation. It's exhausting, and it was caused by a simple mistake from my SO and their sister, and I don't think i could ever tell them how I deeply I feel about the outcomes. But i've resented them for causing this for the past three years now. They make me happy so I don't want to break up or cut them out, but I also feel like I can't let them in close again or it will cause more closet issues. We're supposed to move in together this year, but I keep dragging my feet because i'm afraid if we live together, there will be more opportunity for interaction between our families, and a higher chance of someone outing me again. I just needed to get this off my chest. Thank you for having your inbox open ♥

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why didn't tumblr tell me i was getting asks sent in. tf. lemme queue these up

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Men will literally send anons to a Tumblr Vent Blog rather then go to therapy /j

Anon w/ all due respect:

This is not a vent blog in it's entirety, this is for all confessions (within reason).

I allow vent anons to be sent, it's not like they're sending it unsolicited. I even have a tag for it so ppl can block it if they want

Therapy is super expensive and it's hard to find a therapist thats right for you

So kindly, even if it is a joke, it's sort of mean-spirited to make fun of people for using an outlet to talk about things they may be ashamed or afraid of talking about.