"B-B-BUT YOU SHOULDN'T REFER TO PEOPLE U DON'T KNOW AS THEY OR IT!!!! THAT MEANS A GROUP OF PEOPLE OR AN OBJECT!!!!!!!!!!"
"YOU CAN'T USE THEY OR IT!!!!! THATS NOT WHO THOSE WORDS WORK!!!!!!!!!!!"
They, a third person pronoun to describe a group of people or a person/thing with an unknown gender.
It, used to identify a noun, object, or place previously mentioned or to refer to a person(usually a baby)/animal/thing with an unknown gender(and like fifty other definitions-)
If your going to use grammar as an excuse to not refer to someone with the correct pronoun or so you can force a binary gender onto someone you clearly don't actually care about grammar and are just cherry picking as many excuses as possible so you don't have to change your way of thinking.
Saying a word has one definition, especially if it is a non-binary pronoun that is supposed to be out of the binary for a reason, is like saying you can't eat eggs if its not for breakfast.
There are tons of words with double meanings. Like peg, which refers to an object like a nail, multiple economic terms, a type of throw in baseball, and the act of a person(typically female) penetrating their male partner(or just anal in general).
If that last example made you uncomfortable, sorry gng. It also proves my point on how we're not only prudish about gender, sexuality, etc, but the context in which we use words. Why should we be so pressed about the exact definition of a word when the English language was built with situational context in mind? Hell, all languages are built around situational context.
A word can mean a completely different thing in two different scenarios. If you really were that pressed about how a word is used, maybe you should study it instead of policing what pronouns a person uses because you want things to be "easier" for you.
Using they/them and it/its pronouns is only hard for you to use because you want a way to separate man from woman, this is inherently sexist and harmful to all people in gender binaries btw. Its never just queer people.
