#mod kasper

[are-they-a-faggot]

Hey ! I'm Kasper and I use he/him pronouns!! I'm gonna use #mod kasper for my posts!

I'll be keeping my main acc secret

i love pretty much anything i can get obsessed with and let take over my life. I'm glad to be here and I'm excited to help out!!

[self-made-kings]

How to hide that you’re binding

You know better than others would what happen if people found out you had a binder. Use your best judgement and stay safe.

How to hide binders from people you live with: -Pillowcases are your friend. They are great to hide your binder when you’re not wearing it. -If you have pants with large pockets, fold up your binder and stuff it in your pockets; this also ensures you can always have your binder be in the same room as you -Stuff it in a pair of socks; people don’t really look in clothes for other clothes -Half tank binders can be passed off as compression sports bras (which you can say you need to keep things from moving when you exercise -Full tank binders just look like tank tops; unless you know what you’re looking for -If your people you are living with will get upset about you having a flat chest, but you need to bind for your mental health, wear your binder, and a stuffed bra over it (It can help you feel like the bra is just fake, and no, you don’t actually have a sticky outty chest) -The “trans guy slouch” which is staying a bit hunched over in attempt to hide your chest, also works for drawing attention away from your chest to people you don’t want to know your binding (It is terrible for your back, but I mention it with the understanding that sometimes we have to make small sacrifices for our mental health vs our physical health; if you do this, make sure you’re speaking to a chiropractor, pcp, ect to make sure your back is still being as healthy as possible

Spending the night somewhere: -Sleep with big blankets, even if you aren’t having them completely over you, such as in the summer, cuddling them against your chest is helpful -Make sure you go to sleep before or after everyone else, and wake up before everyone else; that way you can avoid people seeing you without your binder -Sleep on your back, with something fluffy over your chest; sleeping on your back does help flatten things out a bit

Being stealth: -Half tank binders can be mistaken as bras, so if you need to be stealth full tank is better -Most people don’t need to wear a shirt over a full tank binder -If anyone asks, just say its a shirt that helps with sweat, or a “compression shirt to help your back problems”

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Defining Religion: Sociological Perspectives

Religion is a complicated subject that means a great deal to the majority of humanity - something that is easy to forget, living in a largely secular and multicultural society where open discussion of faith is regarded as being taboo as to avoid arguments (along with the topics like sex and politics).  When thinking of the definition of religion, most people probably expect concepts like, say, a belief in a higher power, an established system of governance over a sub-culture that shares in a belief, a promise of reward and punishment for our deeds based on the morality defined by doctrine, the existence of doctrine that includes myths, rituals, legends, folklore, etc. You could probably go on forever trying to find exactly what defines a religion. The problem is that our common notions about religion often leave out some groups and include others that maybe shouldn’t be considered as faiths.  This is one of the most contentious issues in the Sociology of Religion. I’m going to skip over some of the drama that exists in the field and get into the nitty-gritty here. There is no single definition that can authoritatively explain what religion really is, but the many definitions that do exist fall on a spectrum between two types: The Substantive and the Functional. Substantive definitions concern themselves with what a religion contains in its beliefs, rituals, customs, practices, etc. Functional definitions serve to define what a religion does for a person: how does it give meaning to life, how does it define right and wrong, and so on. These are some of the most prominent definitions of religion in the field of sociology that I have summed up a bit.  1. Emile Durkheim’s Definition A religion is a unified system of beliefs and practices relative to sacred things - that is to say things that are set apart and forbidden - which unite into a single moral community. Religion is Sociological not Psychological

2. Rational Choice Theory Religion can be defined as the expenditure of perceived costs in order to gain supposedly supernatural rewards and avoid supposedly supernatural punishments. These rewards and punishments are split into the immediate (can happen in the foreseeable future) and the compensatory (to happen at an undisclosed time in the future, often in the afterlife).

3. Religion as Misattribution People desire answers to questions and make poor attributions (or misattributions) when attempting to answer these questions - often coming to the conclusion that all good comes from the divine, whereas evil is rooted in the natural world (particularly in people). Religious Misattribution can be defined as the assignment of causation regarding social, medical/physiological, emotional/psychological, physical, or environmental issues to a supernatural realm.

My personal perspective tends to fall a bit more to the functional side - what a religion does, rather than what a religion contains. To me religion is any system that takes philosophical stances regarding ethics and transforms them into systems of morality, in short turning ideas of right and wrong into ideas of good and evil. The beliefs, rituals, customs, and so on are not what defines a religion, but rather are the tools that a religion utilizes to cement its moral perspective.

-Kass

[self-made-kings]

Tied my first tie today!!! I’m like super proud of myself omg

[self-made-kings]

Hey there so my surgeon called and I got bumped up on the list and I got a date for top surgery is literally in 27 days and I'm freaking out I just like I know I want this I've wanted this forever but I'm scared about going under and just the general idea of it any suggestions?

Hey! I haven’t had the spoons to do anything besides work, but I, Mod Kasper am still here! Just, lurking for asks that only I can answer, like this.So! First thing first. Relax. I used to work out every day before my top surgery, but I stopped a couple days prior to just relax myself. I made sure my checklist of things (blankets, straws, pillows, snacks, ect… .) was by my chair. My ride was set up. Everything was in perfect order. Knowing I did everything I could do to prepare made me a lot less nervous about surgery its self.

As far as anesthesia, first know you can ask for anxiety meds. They will be happy to give them to you while you’re at the hospital. So many people go under all the time, and they come up just fine. There really is no reason you should worry. You’ve wanted this, and it’s worth it, and it will turn out just fine.

I was really anxious on my way to the hospital. I was excited but anxious as hell. Once I was taken back to the pre-op room, it went away.It doesn’t go away for everyone, but there were too many people talking to me and asking questions for me to be able to be anxious.

Surgery can sound super scary but it’s not. You check in, You answer questions, get some medication, count, and wake up. You’re gonna be okay and I am so proud of you. You got this.

~Mod Kasper

[self-made-kings]

Mod Kasper here! My blog is queer-phantom.tumblr.com

So I added my information to the about section, but here’s some fun facts I have lived in Michigan, California, Arizona, and I currently live in Oregon. My favorite animal is a tegu I love body mods, and I intend to go into that industry as a career I got my belly button removed I use the cane because back problems make it hurt to walk

I am more than happy to answer questions about anything I can. I came out over 3.5 years ago, and I was so thankful to the tumblr community for supporting me and teaching me when I first came out.

[self-made-kings]

I'm 8, almost 9 months on T and my period still hasn't gone away. It makes me so dysphoric and I feel so gross every time I get it and :( my doctor wants me to quit drinking and smoking so I can stay on T and get its Full Effects but I'm finding it so hard to quit and I'm just. So stressed out :(

Hey! First of all, thank you for reaching out. I know it can be scary and tough to do that, and you’re awesome for having that courage.

So. As far as your period goes, unfortunately sometimes it takes a while to go away. As long as your T levels are within the cis male range, it typically does go away eventually, but keep in mind there are a few rare cases where T alone doesn’t make it stop. Until it does, or on the off chance it doesn’t you could try a birth control that doesn’t have estrogen in it. I personally got a Nexplanon implant in my arm at 15, and I kept in until I got my hysterectomy about a year on T. There are other options that it would be worth talking to your doctor or a Planned Parenthood about.

As far as drinking and smoking, yes, they aren’t good for you, and it’d be wise to stop. That being said, I have known plenty of people that drank, smoke, or did both, and their transition was the same speed as anyone else. At this point try baby steps. Cutting down slowly. Congratulating yourself, or rewarding yourself with something not harmful every time you turn down a cigarette or a drink. Try sticking around people that don’t do those things, or agree to do them not around you. I’m not sure how much you drink, but if its a decent amount it may be worth it to look into a support group.

It gonna be stressful, and its gonna suck, but congratulate yourself on the little victories. You’re strong. You’ve got this. You can do it.

~Mod Kasper

[self-made-kings]

Hello! I'm a trans boy who is a freshman in high school, and I just got my name and gender changed in the system! But I still get misgendered quite alot, so I'm looking to go on Testosterone soonish. The problem is, I don't know how to ask my guardian to help get me into therapy, much less where to go. Thank you for the advice in advanced! - Owl Anon

Hey! So. If you have a supportive family, it would probably be best to ask to sit down and have a serious conversation. Tell them that you want to go on T, why you want to, what T does, and that you need a therapist so you can start (however if they are SUPER supportive you may be able to bypass the therapist if you desire and find an endo that does informed consent). Be prepared for them to ask questions, and make sure you’ve done your research.

As far as where to go, its kinda up to you. A good place to start is googling trans or LGBT friendly therapists in your area. There are other places you can check like your local LGBT center, or if you have a trans guy community in your town. Personally my town had a therapist that was known for writing letters, and I found out about her through local trans people. Before you make an appointment, make it clear you don’t want ongoing therapy (unless you do want ongoing therapy) but that you need to get your hormone letter as quick as possible. Don’t be afraid to look around and see what therapist can get you your letter quicker.

If you don’t have a supportive family, its a whoooole other conversation. Its definitely harder to do, and some places make roadblocks that make it impossible, but it is still possible in some places to start T under 18 without a supportive family (I did that).

Good luck!!

~Mod Kasper