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[genderfluxpositivity]

Is it ok to identify as genderflux but not nonbinary?

I think I’m mascflux bc I always feel male in some way but how male I feel fluctuates (side note: use mascflux to describe myself instead of boyflux bc I personally find the word “boy” infantilising due to personal experiences but it means exactly the same thing as boyflux) and I know genderflux falls under nonbinary umbrella, but the nonbinary label itself just doesn’t feel like me.

I’m outside the binary, but I just don’t feel nonbinary. Even when my gender feels more neutral than male, nonbinary just doesn’t really fit right. I’m not always 100% a guy but being referred to as male is what gives me euphoria, and my gender identity isn’t strictly binary but being called nonbinary makes me dysphoric? Idk if I’m making sense, I’m just not sure if being genderflux but not being nonbinary is ok.

Of course it's okay! How we feel about labels can be super complicated, like I know plenty of people who identify as nonbinary but not trans, but also plenty of people who identify as nonbinary AND trans.

If you feel like nonbinary doesn't fit how you feel that's completely valid!

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is it possible to be an AMAB non-binary man? like if you are AMAB, and you are a demiboy/boyflux and identify as a man/boy would that make you a non-binary man? 

Oh absolutely! Your assigned gender doesn't have to limit how you feel or how you present yourself, as long as you're comfortable identifying that way use whatever label you like!

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(i'm sorry if you don't know or if this doesn't make sense) for as long as i've known the words gynosexual and androsexual I've understood them to mean attraction to femininity and attraction to masculinity, and have nothing to do with a person's sex or gender. so gynosexual would include feminine women, feminine men, and feminine non-binary people, but would exclude masculine women, masculine men, and masculine nb people. (1/2)

That makes sense and aligns with my understanding of those sexualities!

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I put all of my self discovery out of my mind as a teenager, cuz my grandma was dying from dementia and there was no room for me. Now after having a bi sexual crossing dressing ex bf i started asking myself what am i. I now accept that i am demisexual and panromantic.But after a fictional character that is genderfluid so caught my attention i took to researching and looking for answers. What am i. I asked on a quiz and thought id get cis. Nope... Im genderflux. How do i process this?

My suggestion is: one step at a time. Think about what this means for you personally, do you feel dysphoria? What about euphoria? What in your life makes you feel those things? Do you like your name? What pronouns would like to here? What clothes do you like to wear? Really explore your identity and presentation and let yourself process who you want to be. But take it slowly, these things can be super overwhelming.

Also my recommendation if you're just figuring this out, don't feel super pressed to use a specific label. If you feel like genderflux fits you that's great! But it's also okay if any other label fits you, or no labels at all!

Just take a deep breath and try to enjoy this journey!

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does anyone know what the O in #IDAHOBIT is for??

Being completely honest I have never heard of this, so for a hot minute I thought you were asking me about idaho politics.

Googled it and it stands for international day against homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia, the O is for HOmo, like the I is for bi

though, like, next time I recommend googling it instead of asking a positivity blog

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questioning being genderflux (specifically girlflux) be like, while afab: wait... am I a demigirl? no.. am I bigender? no.. maybe I'm just cis? wait no.. agender? no what if I'm a cis woman, but not as attached to what society views as "female"? but I feel connected to feeling female and don't mind being called Miss but also I don't mind a gender neutral title like Mx.?... maybe I am genderflux since that describes it all and the reason why I do feel a connection to being female is because its part of my gender identity in a way... but maybe what if I'm cis? (this is genuine :') I'm currently questioning and aaaa I'm not having a fun time since I just don't know anymore?? am I genderflux/girlflux?? enby?? cis?? genderqueer?? I really have no either anymore and even with pronouns... I like she/her? but I also don't mind they/them? so I think I like she/they pronouns? but I have no idea... the only thing I know right now is that I'm a chosen name I've picked out for myself and have a connection to that name since I feel no connection to my legal first name?)

Hey those feelings are completely valid! Gender and expression can be super complicated, especially when you’re realizing you don’t fit into the box you’re expected to. 

My recommendation is to think this over and take it slowly, labels are wonderful but it’s completely alright to be unsure or even not use them for awhile (or at all!). It seems like you’re open to new pronouns and gendered language! I would explore that, maybe talk to close and trusted loved ones, or you can use websites like pronoun dressing room ! 

Also: don’t feel like you’re just “special cis” because you still somewhat identify as your assigned gender! You’re still outside of the gender binary and don’t fully identify with it, so you’re completely valid as a trans and/or nonbinary person! It’s also perfectly okay if you question your gender and later find out you’re cis. Ultimately don’t feel pressured to identify one way or another, try to explore your expression and find what you enjoy, and then see if any label fits that! 

Hope this helps! Feel free to ask more questions! 

~Oleander 💖