#mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

Would it be an autism/bpd/system thing to age slide? Or is it like one specifically??

i’ve never heard of age sliding being relevant to BPD.

age sliding is mostly relevant to PTSD, autism and DID. (i apologize if i missed one, it’s currently 4 am where i live so my memory isn’t at 100%.)

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

also with the "not being able to talk" thing - if not a symptom of autism - it could be dissociation. I know I have different forms/severity of dissociation and sometimes it makes me unable to process what people are saying to me and being unable to respond verbally. I doesn't happen to me too often bc it's normally only when I'm really triggered or uncomfortable that I lose that function but it does happen. and ofc dissociation is common in people w/ bpd and trauma survivors

a lot of different disorders cause mutism/non verbal behavior. it’s not particular to a certain disorder - but the terminology used, often times is specific to a disorder. (example: imprinting is a bpd specific term.)

it would be up to that person to analyze how it affects them and which disorder it might stem from. i personally believe it’s more important to find ways to manage them (if that’s what they need), as opposed to find reasons for them - mostly because the latter can take years and the former might at least cause some temporary relief.

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

(preferably @ sahar or any other mods who have autism?) I think it depends on the individual, but I just kind of wanted to double check, do you have to be aware of yourself when stimming? Like, I have a tendency to dissociate a lot (not always, but most of the time) when stimming, and I wasn't sure if that could still be considered an autistic thing or if the dissociating made it more of anxiety stimming? If that makes sense? idk,, sorry for taking away from the blog's focus again!

stimming can be both intentional and unintentional! sometimes i stim and don’t realize it until someone informs me or tells me to stop. other times i stim because i feel like i have so much pent up energy that i just sit and vibrate and bounce because i can’t let it out any other way.

stimming is a word specific to autism. (i think there’s a chance that it may also be used for adhd, but it’s definitely only used for neurodevelopmental disorders. it would be another word if it’s something caused by anxiety.)

more on that: there are a lot of people who act on their impulse disorders because of anxiety and it may be confused as stimming - example: when anxious, some might tear at the skin around their fingernails, chew on the skin inside of their lips, toy with their hair.

to answer this part, though: “I wasn't sure if that could still be considered an autistic thing or if the dissociating made it more of anxiety stimming?”

it honestly depends on your interpretation of things. just try looking through resources online and analiying your behavior and maybe you’ll be able to get to the root of things.

i hope i helped.

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

honestly I think you're kidding yourself if you ever believe that people are just gonna stop using the c-word. How many times have you heard that word today? This week? This month? I don't want to make you uncomfortable by saying the "c-word" but I also don't understand why you can't handle people using it online; you can't tell everyone you meet IRL not to use it, the world doesn't work like that. And as someone with BPD and psychosis I get it. But you can't police people like that.

people can use it if you want, just tag it so myself and others bothered by it don’t see it and don’t use it while addressing me. that’s all i ask.

but thanks for telling me to simply give up and subject myself to being triggered and dissociating constantly when this could be easily avoided by people not using the word with me and tagging their personal posts of it (only if i’m following them too ‘cause i don’t look through tags.)

and yes, i can and do tell people i associate with IRL not to use slurs around me and most people respect that because i like to associate myself with decent people.

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

(I'm so sorry for all the autism asks, if you ever get uncomfortable with it just let me know! or if you know of any other active blogs that are willing to answer questions that would be cool too!) I was curious if, like, for autistics who internalize their symptoms, do u know if it's common to get 'stuck' on a word? Sort of like echolalia, I guess? But it's like ur thought train just stops and can't get past a word and keeps repeating it in ur head? Or maybe that's a symptom of something else,,

this might be an internalized form of stimming! i tend to do this a lot but i have little control over what i say so usually, i end up verbally repeating the word stuck in my head over and over. it’s quite laughable when it’s a silly word. but this is a pretty common thing for autistics!

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

Hey if I recall you can only reclaim cr-zy if you're psychotic so otherwise please don't do it

okay, firstly i mentioned in the other ask that i’m uncomfortable with slurs. please just use “c-word” or something, as it’s preferable.

but you’re incorrect. the c-word can be reclaimed by anyone with a mental illness because it’s not a slur exclusively used towards psychotics. the slur you’re thinking of is the p-slur, which is a word only psychotics can claim.

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

I'm in treatment for body dismorphic disorder at the moment, but I'm also a borderline so my problem is that my therapist only concentrates on the issues of bdd, what I can understand because that's the therapy, but sometimes when I'm talking about my bpd symptoms or related things, she acts like bdd is the cause or she doesn't really recognize it as bpd. I feel like my bpd isn't valid or isn't bad enough for her to talk about that too or to take it. seriously. Today I dissociated during (1)

(2) therapy and I felt like she didn't think it was that bad, like it could've been worse of course because I don't dissociate very often and if I do then lightly, but still it makes me feel invalid and I feel pathetic because she may think I overact or that I want attention. I don't think I can talk to her about that, I like her really much actually but I would feel awful telling her this. I feel really helpless because I at least want to be taken serious in therapy, when not in real life :(

i think the best thing to do would be to just explain that you feel very invalidated with her and that you wish she focused on other aspects of your mental health and not just bdd. that you understand that your in treatment for bdd but that your mental state is a spectrum and that it's hard to just nitpick at one part of it without addressing all of it!

if she's very adamant about addressing or getting you help for your bpd, i would suggest asking for a referral to see another therapist or finding another to help you! this is a service you're getting and this is supposed to be their job, which they are getting paid for. you don't need to be guilted into tolerating mediocre help!

- mod sahar

[shitborderlinesdo]

My twin brothers and my dad suffer from ADD; I'm a borderline and I also have some other mental illnesses. So, I read an article about ADD and everything just related to me and because of my brothers I can relate to their feelings a lot of times too. When I was in dpd treatment a psychiatrist asked me If I had add too?? Is it possible that my bpd just overlaps with the add symptoms? because I would feel very pathetic telling my therapist or someone else because they might think I want attention

I’m sorry I meant I was in dbt treatment for borderline!!!

okay, so! add is an outdated term. what we have now are three subcategories:

adhd-pi - adhd primarily innattentive

adhd-ph - adhd primarily hyperactive

adhd-c: combined adhd

i can see some overlapping symptoms. for example: mania due to hyperactiveness in adhd and mania due to mood swings in bpd! but i don’t believe they share enough symptoms to confuse one for the other.

i would suggest telling your psych that you genuinely don’t know if you do! but would like to find out, if that’s a genuine concern of yours! try perhaps doing a bit of research on your own first and then bring it up during your next session!

- mod sahar