#mod syd<3

[sapphic-femmes]

hi!! i’m hoping you can give ur two cents cause i’m rly conflicted here :/ i’ve been dating this girl while halfway in the closet for coming up on five months, but we still haven’t said i love you yet, and she’s kinda said that she’s not in love with me, even though i feel like i may be in love with her. she’s ready to have sex, but i want to know that we’re both in love first. i’m risking a lot to be with her, and she’s supportive, but how long should i wait for her to love me back?

Hi there! Love is a very complicated and complex thing, and there is no “one-size-fits all” answer to this, but I would sincerely recommend the course I take when I’m unsure: trust your gut!

To me PERSONALLY, it seems as though she might not care all that much about your desires in this instance if she knows that what you need to be happy and content with having sex is mutual love! If what YOU need to be happy is to be in love before having sex, then have sex after falling in love! If love is your price, don’t settle for anything less, because you will sincerely regret doing so! You can love someone and not have them love you back, which does definitely sting, but you should love yourself more- enough to walk away and choose someone else who DOES love you, who is everything you’ve ever wanted!

Do what YOU feel is right! Stay safe, and report back if you need anything!

-Mod Syd<3

[sapphic-femmes]

Have you guys ever developed a crush for a long time over someone you barely know or am I delusional? How is that possible if I have rarely even talked to her (especially cause I get really nervous but still! Ugh, idk what to do cause I just want to not care but every time I see her again I get so nervous)?

Hello there!

There are many different types of crushes, and people feel differently when they happen to them! Some people get all giddy and giggly, some people react nervously and maybe even mistake it for anxiety! Ive been in your situation before, and I would make an effort to push through your nervousness and try to at least talk with her more, and maybe even hang out!! If it goes well, itll be all the proof you needer, and if it doesnt, then you will have lost nothing!

Good luck and be well!

[sapphic-femmes]

Just send a text to a girl i met yesterday and felt that we clicked & I've never done that and I'm freaking out she hasn't replied but like ??? Did i do this right? Did i read it wrong? Is she not into girls? Into me? Was it too soon to text? She was online but didn't reply? My horoscope said go for it but?? What do i do now??? Omg I'm ready to hurt:(

Hello there!!

While it may have been a bit too soon to confess feelings, you never know unless you try! Who knows, she may be sorting her thoughts out and may say yes! Do your best to relax and distract yourself, and when she responds, maybe apologize for pulling the trigger so quickly, but you didn't want someone as special as her slip away!

Good luck!