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[sharkrats]

Gw2 brain rot again featuring my commanders STUPID sister

[trans-and-autistic]

Hello! I'm a closeted trans guy and I want to come out to my family! I'm not sure how they'd react though, because they can be transphobic from time to time. Any advice <:^)?

Honestly, all you can do is just go for it - but make sure you’re ready for questions and some unintentional ignorance. What I personally did when I came out was make a little booklet for my family that explained a few things I thought was important that they needed to know!All I can say is remember that this would all be new to them. You’ve had a lot of time to learn and understand what transgender is but they’ve never really had to think about it too deeply you know? The best thing you can do for them is to be patient and slowly they will learn.Good luck! Feel free to let us know how it goes!

[trans-and-autistic]

Dude, I would be the WORST eyewitness... 'what did the suspect look like?' buddy I’m autistic I was watching the floor he had shoes that's about as much as I can tell you

[trans-and-autistic]

May I just ask why do you need a page specifically for autistic and trans people? In your bio you talk about your page as if it’s a safe haven for them. You talk about it as if it’s the only safe place for them to go on tumblr when they can go practically anywhere else. I’m sorry if I’m sounding like I’m nitpicking but I’d just like to advise you to change your bio a little.

Hi, to answer your questions in order;“why do you need a page specifically for autistic and trans people?”Some autistic people feel like their autism affects how they see their gender, which is something that non-specific trans groups might not cover. It’s also nice to have a space where you can meet other people who share a similar experience as you instead of just a partial one!“ You talk about it as if it’s the only safe place for them to go on tumblr when they can go practically anywhere else.”Specifically stating that THIS is a safe space doesn’t imply that all other spaces aren’t safe. I’m not really sure how the bio actually implies what you’re thinking it does? I don’t see it as any different to saying “This is a gay bar, a safe for gay people” it doesn’t mean you won’t find gay people in a generalized bar and all other bars aren’t safe to be gay in, it just means this bar specifically is catered to gay people and measures are in place to keep homophobic people out.

[trans-and-autistic]

Does anyone have any advice about people on the autism spectrum taking part in pride? I really want to be involved but it's always so loud and crowded that I just can't cope ☹️

You could try getting some noise cancelling headphones to help with how loud it is, some of them are made to block out loud noises but still make it so you can hear when people nearby are talking to you.When it comes to crowds, if you stay close to the back of parades there's usually a lot of a gap for space, but id definitely bring along someone who you find comforting to be around to help keep you calm.Overall pride can be pretty difficult to navigate when you’re autistic and there's only so much you can do by yourself! You could try talking to the people who plan the pride event too if you can to see if there's anything they could do.Good luck!

[trans-and-autistic]

ive been having a lot of trouble lately... i havent been diagnosed with autism but my one friend who is autistic thought i was and looking into a lot of things actually match up? but im also super paranoid (might just be my anxiety?) and dont want to incorrectly assume. im also terrified of asking to be screened

My best recommendation would be to do a lot research and write down all the symptoms you have that match up. Finding explanations for symptoms can be pretty hard and yes there are some overlaps with other disorders, but there's no harm in learning about something and seeing if it matches with you.On being screened, it's actually not as scary as you might think! It's just like seeing any other therapist/psychiatrist, you talk with them for a while about what you were like as a child - were you social, did you understand social boundaries, did you struggle with understanding some forms of communication, etc etc until they’ve got a good grasp of that - then they ask you about yourself now and what you’re like, why you think you’re autistic, your symptoms.Sometimes they do a little test with you by getting you to do a puzzle or tell a story by reading a wordless book to them and take note of your reactions.If you’re more worried about the asking part of getting screened, if you’re in the UK asking your GP is pretty easy and they’re very nice about it; all you have to say is you’re curious if you have autism and want to see a psychiatrist who can help you with that. If you’re worried about your parents you can ask to talk to the GP on your own and not say what the appointments for - or tell them its an appointment about your anxiety.If you’re in the USA you can do a similar thing as most therapists/psychiatrist that specialises in autism also cover anxiety and you don’t need to tell your parents it's for an autism diagnosis.You obviously don’t HAVE to get a diagnosis but if that's why you were worried I hope it helps you!

[trans-and-autistic]

are you transmed?

No, I don’t believe anyone who posts here is? I know most of the mods (including me) are non-binary, which people who are “transmedicalists” don't usually approve of.

[trans-and-autistic]

My dad wanted me to see a counselor about being trans and I thought the session was going well until he said that it may all be in my head as a result of being ocd, autistic, and due to the brain injuries I had in early development. Like, I can be all those things at once and I didn’t just spend 7 years trying to make certain I really felt I was male to have this rando tell me otherwise. My dad wants me to do at least two sessions with him so my next one is Monday but I start hormones on Tuesday

I’m sorry to hear that happened to you! All I can suggest is talking to your dad and letting him know that that kind of treatment has no basis and that if you must see a counsellor you would like to switch to someone who can be more professional. Otherwise, you could mention to the counsellor that you would like to see somebody else?I’m not sure when this message came in but I hope everything goes okay for you. Congrats on HRT!