My husband keeps waking up our baby, how can I get him to stop? (31F 34M)
Let me start by saying my husband is absolutely amazing. In almost every way. Like he came straight out of a romance novel and he been like that for the last 15 years and we’ve been in love the whole time. Now, what’s the problem? Well we had our first daughter 3 months ago and he just adores her. She is beautiful and he just can not for the life of him stop kissing her and biting her tummy and squishing her cheeks. He‘s a very physically affectionate person and just has so much cute aggression. I don’t want him to show her any less of it and while she’s fully awake that’s fine, but she needs to sleep! He tries his best to hold it in while she’s napping but he ends up caving and trying to sneak a quiet kiss and risk waking her. And he overdoes it when she’s tired and she ends up restless and unable to sleep. I’m worried because if she doesn’t get a good sleep pattern I end up paying the price by waking up in the middle of the night to put her to breast. I’ve tried waking him up with me but he doesn’t mind at all, and will probably end up getting a few more kisses in and overstimulating her. It also doesn’t help that he doesn’t know how to whisper and he isn’t very stealthy when going about his day, though he’s working on that. I want him to stop overstimulating her when she’s tired or pushing his luck she she’s asleep. How do I do this?
This isn't fucking cute. Tell him to stop harming your infant. He needs to act like a grown ass adult and prioritize his daughter's health and safety over his ridiculous urges. He can 100% control himself, and he needs to immediately before he finds himself sleeping in a hotel.
If he doesn't respect you enough to listen to you or his daughter enough to see how his need for control and immediate gratification is harming her, then have the conversation together with her pediatrician.