My Statement - Keeby (aka MarsAdept) Situation
Introduction:
Hello, I’m Moonlight-Selkie aka Trifle-&-Custerd to those in the MS/MV Discord server.
I am the founder of the server and an admin / mod as well and the creator of the Magical Atmosphere fan project.
In the light of recent events and a video by magic_windsock I have consent to write out and release this statement, which will be posted onto Tumblr, and shared to the MS/MV serve
Before I continue hear Is a link to the Folder with all screen shot I took of the corespondent between me and Kebab:
As some of you know, a while ago someone who goes under the name Keeby joined the MS/MV server and became an editor for Kovopeida.
They would eventually start to talk about topics and personal stuff to Rman & Windsock (the mods & editors for Kovopeida) that neither one wanted to discuss or felt comfortable discussing.
Even after Keeby had been directed to other places to vent their frustrations, and even after Rman & Windsock tried to set boundaries Keeby kept bothering them about things they were not wanting to talk about.
This is harassment and Rman rightly asked me to remove Keeby from the MV/MS Discord, which I did as the server has a no harassment policy. (note at this time Rman was not a mod/admin for the MV/MS discord).
At this point I had little connection to the situation other than fulfilling the request to remove Keeby from the MS/MV Server. But Keeby would end up contacting me, which I’ll go through now.
July 2023 - Discord
Note much to say. This was the first time Keeby contacted me, I was cautious and did not say much. This is where I make my first mistake in not just blocking Keeby.
September 2023 - Tumbelr Messages
On September 5th I got a sting of PM from Keeby on Tumblr, they were angry, and filled with venom. These messages were fairly toxic and I should have definitely blocked Keeby at this point.
I then got more PM on the 17th, this time I responded because at the time I felt somewhat bad and wanted to give them a second chance, with the hope that they may make amends and improve their behaviour.
This was my second mistake and In hindsight I was a fool for giving them the benefit of the doubt. I had and was being manipulated and lied to from the start.
September 2023 - Discord.
From the 17th on word all messages between me and Keeby fully switched to discord. From here we would talk. Like a fool in these talks I told them to try and make friends with others in the community but I see that was a bad thing to suggest.
I also suggested that they write up an apology to Rman and Windsock, to which they replied they already had and that they don’t feel comfortable enough reentering the MS/MV server. I also said it would be best to leave Rman and Windsock be for now anyway.
Just to Note at this point I had Informed the Admin team for the MV/MS discord that Keeby was in contact with me, which did include Rman who had become an admin for this discord at this point.
Keeby and I would have the odd conversation, but then on the 23rd I would let them into my server for a MS/MV fan project I had created called Magical Atmosphere. This was my 3rd mistake.
After that we would talk more and he would bring up his feeling on the situation, how bad he had been feeling, and that it had made him not want to play the game, ect.
In hindsight i was being manipulated, and even if those feelings are true they way he was talking about thought feelings to me wore definitely in an attempt to gain sympathy. Which I feel for.
October 2023 - Discord
Things went quiet for a bit until we picked up conversation again on the 14th, they talked about how they feel rejected by the community, but they did at one point say they messed up.
With that I let my guard down a little, but I was honest that I can’t do much to try and mediate the situation and offer to listen to them if they need someone to talk to. This was another mistake on my part.
October 24th, Keeby had written an apology to Windsock & Rman, as Keeby was blocked by them, I was the one to pass it on. I had no involvement in the apology other then passing it on.
From here I told Keeby to be patient. But at this point my main focus was on Windsock & Rman, they wore the ones who had been wronged and so it was up to them if they accepted it.
Windsock & Rman said they would need time to think it over, but it was evenly clear to me that they did not accept it. Which I was fine with, I may be the top admin and owner of the server but this kind of stuff is a group decision
November 2023 - January 2024 - Discord.
In early November of 2023 I would take a break from discord and a step back from social media. This was due to personal IRL reason, and not to do with Keeby or anything else that was going on at the time.
In December 2023 they sent a few angry messages, then again in early of this year they went on about how everyone hates them, and that they hate everyone as well, and it was just toxic.
Then we get to today, I log on planning to post about how i’m going to be coming back from my break and then I see things just got worse. A member of the Magical Atmosphere server had asked me to remove Keeby from that server as he had been bothering other members.
I had also seen Windsock’s video at this point. From here I received some screenshots of what Keeby had been saying to other people in the community, and concluded that Keeby took advantage of my kindness and that he had lied to me.
I also have concluded that they took advantage of my break from discord to harass other people while I was gone. But that is only speculation.
Conclusions:
I made a lot of mistakes here, I should not have responded to Keeby in the first place, I should not have continued to talk to them, I should not have let them into my fan project server, and I should have blocked them from the start.
But I didn’t, and I want to apologise to Rman, Windsock, DangerBoat, and any others who were harassed and bothered by Keeby. I did not handle this whole thing well and I should have known better.
As for those of you who are reading this and have not had to deal with Keeby personally. DO NOT contact them, do not seek them out, do not respond to them if they contact you. The best thing to do is to Block them
