My abuser's posts about me and why I've been gone.
{ Part 1: What they claimed about me, what people exposed to be the truth }
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So, first off, I want to say sorry to everyone for being gone so long, and you're probably just as shocked as I am to be posting this. It's nice to talk to you all again, I really missed you all. The truth is, along with all the other reasons for my absence I've given, there was one that I have avoided talking about for the years of slow decline that happened, both to my content and myself. And I am sorry for leaving everyone in the dark.
I've thought about posting about this many times, but I always kept myself level-headed, saying it was irresponsible and unnecessary. Unfortunately, the abuser in question did not have the capacity to do the same, and because I still hesitated to speak out about what they were saying, they have since left their blog.
However, these problems and false claims still remain public, along with their lies attempting to villanize another set of victims, so I am forced to respond to this publicly if I want there to be any chance of them seeing it, as they no longer have access to their account.
It is also because of that, I will share that their blog is @stylusscomms , also known as The Labyrinth.
They made xenogender coining, custom emojis/emotes, stimboards, and more. In this first post I will go over what they have been exposed to do and have admitted to regarding their abuse to me. In following posts I will detail the fallout, along with their VERY recent behavior, proving this is not something of the past.
You guys better strap in, because the story of what happened is a wild one. All proof of this is clear on their blog.
I may not provide the proof I personally posess for these claims due to the fact that they have already admitted to most of this, { here } and { here } and I don't want to expose the transcripts of my trauma in cases where I don't have to.
Because of the state of their profile and how they left it how it was, pretty much everything is laid out pretty clearly in these posts, as I will detail: here, here and here.
Stylusscomms started by detailing to their askers how the friendship was "hurtful on both ends", making the allegations that I fakeclaimed them, isolated them after I cut them off, and they never once bit me.
This was followed by a long interspersement on posts regarding matter, which the askers slowly revealed that, one, I never could have fakeclaimed them because they never even told me they were a system { here }. On top of this, prior to asking me about it, they said they had "trauma from not having trauma", so I was a bit hesitant to talk about the possibility, especially in a friendgroup where this was enabled. They also talked over me about a lot regarding my disorder, so I at least wanted to speak up about this. Despite it being one of the only things I could ever bring myself to contradict them on, they still villainized me for it, as they did with anything that I said that was even remotely different from what they wanted me to.
Two, it was both victimblaming to say I isolated them after I cut them off due to them screaming at me, and untrue. Only one person of our friendgroup stuck by me and two of the others went on to date them. And finally, three, they had bit me without my consent countless times.
This directly went against the very extensive asks of people talking about their responses to { a certain mcyt/singer's } allegations and their trauma with biting, Stylus being very outspoken that they would never do such a thing, all of which caused the askers in question feel betrayed. Slowly, the askers exposed even more.
Some people I previously knew offered up their accounts of what actually happened, along with the fact they had proof, detailing how he had physically and emotionally abused me during the course of our entire year long friendship, along with something even worse.
This included him biting me extremely hard, screaming at me, hitting me out of anger, hitting me for sadistic entertainment, holding me down while doing these things, getting others to hold me down, stabbing me with safety pins for fun, laughing at me when I flinched away from them, belittling me, victimblaming me for various things, guilttripping me, sending me beheading and gore videos, and finally, taking away my phone while this took place so that I could not document these instances directly and could not reach anyone.
These claims would further be cooberated by sources we will discuss in the next post.
But the worst of all was the relation of all this to my SA experiences and their more sexual behavior towards me. At this point I had shared my experience with it, but that did not stop them from holding me down or getting others to do so. After he was told to stop biting me, he continually licked me before returning to biting AND licking not long after. On top of that, they not only tried to convince me that my SA was a dream, very insistently, but he blurted out the story of my SA to our mutual friend.
Furthermore, they did not stop there, throughout the whole friendship they did not stop making sexual comments to and about me, and on one occasion, during one of these inappropriate expressions towards me, knowing full-well of my assault, they inappropriately grabbed and touched me directly under the belt.
These were all exposed to them by their askers and they ADMITTED to them.
They came up with a number of different ways to defend themselves, citing that they forgot, they thought the biting was consensual, that he did it as a joke and found it funny, victimblaming me and saying I could have stopped him, and blaming their partners, who had also accused them of abusing them, for their abuse against me.
We will get to the last one in the next post, as it is extensive, but first I will disprove every single one of these.
An asker cited a situation where they lied about forgetting something in order to avoid my confrontation to him regarding their abusive behavior, and this is true, not only that, but I caught them in this same lie multiple times, so I dont, and no one does, have any reason to give them the benefit of the doubt anymore. This was cooberated also.
The biting was never in ANY WAY consensual, I have a hypersensitivity condition with my skin which just made the horrific bite marks and bruises even worse. When my partner, absolutely furious for me, learned about what happened and tried to defend me from his abuse, was villainized by the rest of the friendgroup, and they framed him as possessive, overbearing and weird for simply trying to defend me from Stylus' biting, licking, attacking and sexual comments towards me, along with everything else. NO WONDER why he wouldn't like them!
The excuse that they found humor in their abuse of me. That much was obvious from them both laughing at me flinching away from them and giggling while stabbing me with safety pins. Though his claim that it was never intended to be in a harmful way is also wrong, because he would also physically abuse and scream at me out of anger.
And of course, their victim blaming. They knew full well of my extreme people pleaser tendencies, and took advantage of them. Before this I had NEVER cut anyone off despite countless friendships being very harmful to me, as I have referenced before on my posts, one even involved the police, and I can say that Stylus was by far the worst I have ever gone through. They literally abused me in any way they could and when my partner called them out and told them to quit it, they were dismissed by the friendgroup and Stylus tried to guilttrip him about feeling terrible about it, only to get right back on their behavior with no remorse.
Yet despite all of this, we were "both at fault", and despite everything they said against me being disproven, along with being exposed to have abused and sexually assaulted me, THEY are the one afraid of seeing ME again. THEY are the ones made to panic when I am brought up.
They are afraid to face their abuse victim, they are afraid to face their actions.
