My abuser's posts about me and why I've been gone.
{ Part 1: What they claimed about me, what people exposed to be the truth }
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So, first off, I want to say sorry to everyone for being gone so long, and you're probably just as shocked as I am to be posting this. It's nice to talk to you all again, I really missed you all. The truth is, along with all the other reasons for my absence I've given, there was one that I have avoided talking about for the years of slow decline that happened, both to my content and myself. And I am sorry for leaving everyone in the dark.
I've thought about posting about this many times, but I always kept myself level-headed, saying it was irresponsible and unnecessary. Unfortunately, the abuser in question did not have the capacity to do the same, and because I still hesitated to speak out about what they were saying, they have since left their blog.
However, these problems and false claims still remain public, along with their lies attempting to villanize another set of victims, so I am forced to respond to this publicly if I want there to be any chance of them seeing it, as they no longer have access to their account.
It is also because of that, I will share that their blog is @stylusscomms , also known as The Labyrinth.
They made xenogender coining, custom emojis/emotes, stimboards, and more. In this first post I will go over what they have been exposed to do and have admitted to regarding their abuse to me. In following posts I will detail the fallout, along with their VERY recent behavior, proving this is not something of the past.
You guys better strap in, because the story of what happened is a wild one. All proof of this is clear on their blog.
I may not provide the proof I personally posess for these claims due to the fact that they have already admitted to most of this, { here } and { here } and I don't want to expose the transcripts of my trauma in cases where I don't have to.
Because of the state of their profile and how they left it how it was, pretty much everything is laid out pretty clearly in these posts, as I will detail: here, here and here.
Stylusscomms started by detailing to their askers how the friendship was "hurtful on both ends", making the allegations that I fakeclaimed them, isolated them after I cut them off, and they never once bit me.
This was followed by a long interspersement on posts regarding matter, which the askers slowly revealed that, one, I never could have fakeclaimed them because they never even told me they were a system { here }. On top of this, prior to asking me about it, they said they had "trauma from not having trauma", so I was a bit hesitant to talk about the possibility, especially in a friendgroup where this was enabled. They also talked over me about a lot regarding my disorder, so I at least wanted to speak up about this. Despite it being one of the only things I could ever bring myself to contradict them on, they still villainized me for it, as they did with anything that I said that was even remotely different from what they wanted me to.
Two, it was both victimblaming to say I isolated them after I cut them off due to them screaming at me, and untrue. Only one person of our friendgroup stuck by me and two of the others went on to date them. And finally, three, they had bit me without my consent countless times.
This directly went against the very extensive asks of people talking about their responses to { a certain mcyt/singer's } allegations and their trauma with biting, Stylus being very outspoken that they would never do such a thing, all of which caused the askers in question feel betrayed. Slowly, the askers exposed even more.
Some people I previously knew offered up their accounts of what actually happened, along with the fact they had proof, detailing how he had physically and emotionally abused me during the course of our entire year long friendship, along with something even worse.
This included him biting me extremely hard, screaming at me, hitting me out of anger, hitting me for sadistic entertainment, holding me down while doing these things, getting others to hold me down, stabbing me with safety pins for fun, laughing at me when I flinched away from them, belittling me, victimblaming me for various things, guilttripping me, sending me beheading and gore videos, and finally, taking away my phone while this took place so that I could not document these instances directly and could not reach anyone.
These claims would further be cooberated by sources we will discuss in the next post.
But the worst of all was the relation of all this to my SA experiences and their more sexual behavior towards me. At this point I had shared my experience with it, but that did not stop them from holding me down or getting others to do so. After he was told to stop biting me, he continually licked me before returning to biting AND licking not long after. On top of that, they not only tried to convince me that my SA was a dream, very insistently, but he blurted out the story of my SA to our mutual friend.
Furthermore, they did not stop there, throughout the whole friendship they did not stop making sexual comments to and about me, and on one occasion, during one of these inappropriate expressions towards me, knowing full-well of my assault, they inappropriately grabbed and touched me directly under the belt.
These were all exposed to them by their askers and they ADMITTED to them.
They came up with a number of different ways to defend themselves, citing that they forgot, they thought the biting was consensual, that he did it as a joke and found it funny, victimblaming me and saying I could have stopped him, and blaming their partners, who had also accused them of abusing them, for their abuse against me.
We will get to the last one in the next post, as it is extensive, but first I will disprove every single one of these.
An asker cited a situation where they lied about forgetting something in order to avoid my confrontation to him regarding their abusive behavior, and this is true, not only that, but I caught them in this same lie multiple times, so I dont, and no one does, have any reason to give them the benefit of the doubt anymore. This was cooberated also.
The biting was never in ANY WAY consensual, I have a hypersensitivity condition with my skin which just made the horrific bite marks and bruises even worse. When my partner, absolutely furious for me, learned about what happened and tried to defend me from his abuse, was villainized by the rest of the friendgroup, and they framed him as possessive, overbearing and weird for simply trying to defend me from Stylus' biting, licking, attacking and sexual comments towards me, along with everything else. NO WONDER why he wouldn't like them!
The excuse that they found humor in their abuse of me. That much was obvious from them both laughing at me flinching away from them and giggling while stabbing me with safety pins. Though his claim that it was never intended to be in a harmful way is also wrong, because he would also physically abuse and scream at me out of anger.
And of course, their victim blaming. They knew full well of my extreme people pleaser tendencies, and took advantage of them. Before this I had NEVER cut anyone off despite countless friendships being very harmful to me, as I have referenced before on my posts, one even involved the police, and I can say that Stylus was by far the worst I have ever gone through. They literally abused me in any way they could and when my partner called them out and told them to quit it, they were dismissed by the friendgroup and Stylus tried to guilttrip him about feeling terrible about it, only to get right back on their behavior with no remorse.
Yet despite all of this, we were "both at fault", and despite everything they said against me being disproven, along with being exposed to have abused and sexually assaulted me, THEY are the one afraid of seeing ME again. THEY are the ones made to panic when I am brought up.
They are afraid to face their abuse victim, they are afraid to face their actions.
Since @lovesick-nagi is shadowbanned and his posts aren’t seeming to appear much to people, I figured the best way to circulate this is to spread around this doc.
This is a continuation of our posts on Stylus/The Labyrinth, as we have been requested to add this on.
I held off on posting this to give Stylus an opportunity to reply and send their supposed "proof" they claim to have from their last post, but as of now, there is dead silence from their end. I can't say I didn't expect this, but if they truly think they have something that will vindicate them, I implore them to send it into my askbox. In the meantime, I have a development.
You might remember the person who made the post defending Labyrinth, another one of their exes. You may also have noticed in the last post I said there were now four people speaking out against Stylus, and now, I bring you the fourth statement via that ex/childhood friend, @starfall-sys, as they have now come forward to me to apologize, as well as admit to be a victim of Labyrinth as well. They have asked us to make this post to clarify their feelings on the matter. But first, I will give what they themselves have to say.
This post will also include more of their disgusting actions that I could not include in my three posts, but now have even more backup on.
TW: SH, Mentions of Abuse/SA, Racism, RAMCOA mention/misrepresentation
"Hey. This is Stylus’ friend/ex. As you all may be aware, I posted a really awful defense statement trying to defend Stylus and I will say, I am extremely sorry. That statement not only hurt Nagi, it upset a lot of people who knew the whole story. I know nothing will excuse my actions but I want to explain myself.
When I wrote that statement, I was sort of convinced by Stylus to send it because I felt bad at that time and I wanted to defend him. At that time, I was only aware of one incident, and was not aware of the actual biting, physical abuse, and SA that happened. Stylus deliberately left that out. I wrote that statement under the impression that maybe it could possibly mend friendships and clear off miscommunication but BOY was I wrong.
It wasn't until after people started lashing out at me that I realized the gravity of the situation. It has left me mentally scarred, and I regret ever defending Stylus. I myself realized that Stylus has done stuff to me that I buried under the rug until recently.
This is my apology statement for those who have been hurt by my initial statement. I no longer endorse Stylus, and I have apologized to Nagi about it as well. I’m sorry for causing such a mess, truth be told I was dragged into this by Stylus, but honestly I am glad that it came to that point because otherwise I would have never realized the treatment that I had to deal with from Stylus. I would have been left in the dark.
Now while I would love to explain what he did to me, its way too much for me to explain in a paragraph and I feel that Nagi can explain it better than me, so I will let them tell you the truth."
Here, within what they shared with me, we can learn more about how stylus behaved with them. As you may remember from their post, they are childhood friends with Stylus. They detail how Stylus seemed nice in childhood, coming from a wealthy, safe home, but they started to understand the malicious person Stylus was growing into when they first exchanged discord accounts.
It is truly disturbing to hear the extent of what stylus did to themselves while on video with their "closest friend", who would go on to be their first partner, as it’s something no one should ever have to see, and combined with the accounts in our previous posts, clearly Stylus has a past history with using SH as leverage, and has done this with literally every single person they have dated.
They go on to discuss their experiences with being led to believe I was in the wrong, and how they were apparently being manipulated into doing their bidding for a long time now. They apologized to me for having written the deleted apology post previously on Stylus’ blog.
They talk to us about being straight up ignored by Stylus in their relationship, which is another thing that led to their breakup. Stylus often dismissed their requests for advice or encouragement in favour of themself or others which led this person to feel very isolated and generally worthless to Stylus despite the years they spent knowing eachother.
We’d learn that during the time them and Stylus were dating, Stylus hadn’t informed them that they had begun dating someone else. While they did have a open arrangement, they’d agreed to ask/inform each other first, and Stylus had not, instead dating this person for a month before even mentioning it, completely breaking their partner's trust. They broke up immediately after Stylus tried to gaslight them regarding this.
We’ve also received more examples of Stylus being racist and vile with our renewed friendship with their victims, though we’d already known this for some time due to various personal experiences with them as a POC ourselves, this just goes to show that there is MUCH Stylus has not apologized for, and hoped would just be pushed under the rug.
{ As you can probably tell, the more I talk about him, the less patience I have for his antics. }
Even FURTHER, they claim to be a RAMCOA victim PURELY because of their cult leader OC alter.
So on top of straight up saying he "has trauma" from NOT having trauma, now he is claiming to be a victim of Ritual Abuse, Mind Control, and Organized Abuse. None of these are even entertainable ideas, and the fact he only feels this way because his cult leader OC is "drawn to" these topics is. Something.
At this point, I really cannot say I believe anything he says. He is willing to claim he is a RAMCOA survivor for such silly reasons, and claims to have his dissociative disorder from childhood trauma, trauma that he has straight up said he does not have. It seems he uses these types of things to excuse his actions, or at least that's what their practical use ends up being.
He did something terrible ? He doesn't remember it, it was someone else. Someone says no or even takes too long for him when he pesters them for something ? He has RSD, you can't say no, it'll hurt his feelings. He doesn't show any remorse for literally assaulting someone ? It's not his fault, he has a personality disorder. Even if I've caught him in lies about all of these, when he's proven wrong, he shifts the blame onto someone else, one of his exes. It is never his fault. And if you call him out on all of this, you're the terrible one.
I would like to clarify that every single person I have discussed being affected is a system. I am a system, my partner is a system, all three of his exes are systems. Not a single one of us can say that his claims line up with our system experiences.
He claims things about his system that literally could not be medically possible, he has spewed misinformation on any disorder he brings up and talks over other people WITH those disorders while doing so, and everyone knows him to have a completely normal family and childhood, not traumatic in any sense of the word. The victim who has lived in his house said that if anything, he has been spoiled by his wealthy family. The rest of us has witnessed this as well. He might as well just say that he's endogenic.
He seems to target anyone who enables him, which turned out to be traumatized systems, to get what he wants. This is simply his victim profile, which is why I'm glad he was banned from the system server he held a powerful position in. We are glad to have prevented more harm from being done.
To end this off,
Stylus’ ex who reached out to us concludes with another apology to me, and others, for having ever defended stylus or aided in any of our abuse, which is an apology I accept genuinely, because I already knew they were misinforming people and villainizing their victims.
They villainized me to all three of their exes, they villainized us all to the server they modded, and everyone they manipulated into sympathizing with them has realized they are a victim of Stylus, cut them off, and has a strong distain for them as a person. Even the server they modded for banned them due to learning of their actions after being lied to. Stylus is extremely manipulative, and has upheld a plethora of terrible beliefs while under the guise of amnesia, disorders, or meaning well. The truth is he has just been motivated by prejudice, malicious sadism, sexual deviancy, and his own self interest.
We’re glad to have received a proper apology from Stylus' now ex childhood friend, and gained further knowledge about the extent of what stylus has done from their exes, and we've all become friends again, which makes me really happy !! The only person who has never given a genuine apology for all their terrible actions is Stylus, and I doubt they ever will, because at this point all they seem to be doing is continuing to try and demonize their victims and blamehsift. All I can say is, the more I learn about them, the worse they are revealed to be. If they think they can worm their way into more communities, into more already-traumatized people's lives, they are, simply put, very wrong. I won't let anyone else be hurt because of their abusive nature, and I will continue to protect others.
okay, so ive made this throw away account to be able to respond to this,, will delete it once everything's worked out i guess?? not entirely sure,, and firstly id like to say that everything we're going to say isn't us trying to defend ourself,, what we did was fucked and wrong, end of story,, also im not actually going to comment on some of the things we did because i just genuinely dont know how nor do i remember any of it, and so i feel its safer this way for everyone
im specifically going to be talking about our ex and why what they show isnt exactly,, trustworthy ( I am not calling them a liar however I do have proof from multiple sources that they aren't great and so I do not trust them in the slightest ),,, aswell as us trying to insult your identity
also you only need to respond to this if you are comfortable, i truly dont wish to pressure you into anything you may be uncomfortable with
with our ex, specifically one of them however i truely don't wish for any harm to come to them so i will not be naming names, we have multiple people vouching on the fact they aren't a great individual,, aswell as us ourself having screenshots ( however it is just what i could get my hands on, as we closed our dm with them,, which does mean there is more that i cannot get ),,, if you'd like to learn more about this with screenshots and such id be happy to share if you reached out to us, as we physically cannot reach out to people
and with us trying to insult your identity,, that's not the case at all, we were trying to look out for you as fae/faer pronouns are extremely disrespectful to the fae and should be considered closed pronouns,, we were trying to look out for you so other people don't get aggravated with you for using them in the future,, the best way i can describe it is think of it as using a closed cultures practice with witchcraft, its extremely disrespectful and not something you can do, if that makes sense,, another example is how it's like shi/shir pronouns are only for intersex people,,, i do hope im explaining this well, if not i apologize for the confusion
i appreciate you for saying you forgive us, even though deep down i don't fully believe you,, nor do i even think you should forgive us as we really did hurt you,, we would be willing to get in contact to either talk this through or to showcase some proof we have, however yet again we ourself are incapable of reaching out
( also, the reason we may say things like "from what i've heard" or "what i understand" is truly because we don't remember anything but like,, one thing,, from our entire friendship )( also i should probably say that i didn't proof read this or anything, i definitely should have but i unfortunately didnt and its a tad to late for that now )
Hello again.....
So,, these two points to me are not really effective at all. First of all, you can provide any attempt at defaming your ex but that does not invalidate their experiences with you, which they have already provided proof of. Those are not lies or twisted in any way, it is just what you did. There is no denying that. Even if they were "untrustworthy", the proof is literally right there. I don't need to trust them to believe the factual proof they have presented.
I'm confused about how providing said proof of them being unreliable would prove anything,,, they've already provided logs and everything so they're not lying, and there are now four people having expressed their abusive experiences with you,, so what does trying to slander one of them do to make you look better ?? /gq Frankly, it's working more to do the opposite, because it shows you are still actively trying to blameshift and villanize others.
The reason they were not infact, "the best person", was because they were heavily impacted you and the terrible situation they were put in, and who wouldnt be ? They have since apologized to everyone they legitimately hurt during that time, the affected people accepted the apology, they made actions to better themselves, and have gotten into a better place. I cannot say the same for you.
No one has ever gotten "aggravated" because of my pronouns, which, for the last time, is because i have never used fae/faer in the first place. There was nothing TO be angered by, and there is no logical reason you could have ever said that as a mistake, as my correct pronouns are literally everywhere. It was just a purposeful misrepresentation of my identity, especially because you purposefully spelled them the wrong way. That spelling has never been listed anywhere on any of my socials and no one ever said them verbally. There was never room for misinterpretation.
Please do not try to mansplain closed things within being pagan or intersex, because I am both. If these are, as you say, "closed culture pronouns", even if I did use them, what culture are they closed to ? Pagans ? People who work with the fae ?? Hell, people of Irish heritage ???? I'm all of the above. This is ridiculous. I never even used those pronouns in the first place and there is literally nowhere you could have gotten that information from besides ignoring what my pronouns are actually listed as. There was literally no reason or justification for any of this.
Overall, these aren't even my main gripes with you. I'd say the main ones wereee...maybe getting physically abused for a year and sexually assaulted. Which you have still never apologized directly to me for, nor do I think any apology or excuse you would come up with could ever make better.
To my knowledge I have never claimed to forgive you. I said I forgive your exes, because they were also your victims, and their actions were influenced by that. I can understand were they came from, because we dealt with the same things from you. You are right to believe we wouldn't or shouldn't forgive you, we didn't ever claim to, and we never will.
You say you are physically unable to reach out, which confuses me as that is literally what you did by sending this. This ask is also not an anonymous one, meaning you can send images here, which you are free to do. I am interested in what you think would vindicate you in this situation, and would like to see.
You,, still could have proof read it, because you actively wrote down that you should have before you sent it, but okay. A small bit of advice, but as many of your askers constantly said, and you still have clearly not learned, you really should be more careful with what you say, especially in a situation as,, critical for you as this is. I look forward to seeing the supposed proof you have, feel free to try and prove me wrong with whatever you send in.
