I desperately need help. I've been on a LDR for six months now, two more to go before I move to the same area. I'm in love with him; he isn't quite there. I spend two wonderful weeks with him over the holidays, but now that I'm back I'm feeling extreme anxiousness and fear. I've been having nightmares he's going to break up with me. Where I'm at is extremely depressing where I have strenuous training with nobody but him to help me through it. So it makes me think ... what if he's just staying
you know who has the answer, your guy. ask him if this is what he rly wants. if he tells you he’s looking forward to it, or some other positive thing, then take him at face value. tht’s just how relationships work, you have to communicate openly and honestly-as there’s no guarantee.
there’s always going to be a bit of uncertainty, as either of you can leave at any time. you gotta accept tht. plus, the more you cling too tight and let your fear keep you from enjoying your partner- the more likely he’ll break things off.
the best things you can do, is talk to him, let him know about your anxieties without making him feel like they are his fault. also, you should find some help dealing with this stress tht’s driving you to depression and nightmares. at the very least, journaling, or talking to someone about how you’re feeling.
work on those coping skills, and how to accept yourself. you don’t have to be in love with you, but you’ve got to know tht you’re worthy of a good relationship, cuz you are,dove. i wish you both all the luck and remember, worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. gives you smthng to do, but doesn’t get you anywhere.
