Okay so, first of all, thank you for answering and clearing this up. I hope you didn't perceive my asks as attacking or anything? It wasn’t my intention at all to sound accusing or aggressive. I like your comic and I was voicing genuine concerns and frankly, I don't appreciate the comments saying that I'm overreacting, obsessed with labels and “political correctness” and accusing me of "literally attacking you". If I sent you these messages it's because I trust you have good intentions and you care about not accidentally perpetuating homophobic or biphobic messages. You’ve done or said nothing to suggest otherwise, and I appreciate that.
So far I like how you've handled most of the portrayal of Joa and Dylan's sexuality but what happened in the last panels + the way you handled these messages were a tad worrying, and I don't think it's unreasonable for me, a bi person, to be somewhat wary of straight people creating content about us. It's nothing personal, but BL comics kinda have a terrible track record on this. I simply decided to check with you to get some reassurance that you were aware of the potential issue.
I like that your characters are multidimensional, that they question themselves, that they're not sure yet and may never be sure -- that does happen to us, yes! that's realistic! I don't want to "put them into neat boxes" and I certainly don't want to break down their sexuality into 30 hyperspecific labels. (Although ‘bi’ isn’t exactly a constrictive or very specific label anyway.) At the same time I think it's important to be aware that tropes such as "straight but gay for you" exist, and that the refusal to use the label bisexual for bi characters is also something extremely widespread and systematic in media, and it hurts (real) bi people. That's not a new discussion but it is still very much relevant and I don't appreciate people trying to shut it down, especially if they're straight.
I disagree with quite a lot of people in the comments (especially on the split attraction model -- yes, it is absolutely homophobic, biphobic and possibly transphobic to use it outside of the ace spectrum (ie. Xromantic ace or aromantic Xsexual), and people really, really need to stop using it uncritically. I don’t really have a masterpost or anything but lots of LGBT people, particularly lesbian and bi women, have been very vocal about the problems of the split attraction model and the ways it encourages internalised homophobia, biphobia and compulsory heterosexuality). Anyone is welcome to message me if they want to discuss it further, and we can keep it out of nn's inbox.