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how do i tell if im aplatonic??

hm i guess ask yourself a few questions

. have you ever felt an attachment to your friends?

. if so, is it with most or all? or only friends you know well? (demiplatonic) does it fade? (lithoplatonic) and more (check the aro or ace wiki, all of those have apl counterparts and idk if there an apl wiki)

. have you ever been sad when a friend leaves your life (assuming on good/neutral terms)

. was it because you liked them or did you like their company? if its the latter then theres a good cjance youre apl

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hey, hope this is okay to ask, but do you have any tips for writing a friendship-favorable aplatonic character? i don’t want to get into any stereotypes or negative things. feel free to ignore this ask if you want!

id say probably try to acknowledge the lack of bond with friends? like the character likes their friends, but lacks the bond kinda? sorry if this isn't a good explanation

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i swear to god im going to kill someone

if this becomes the new "are aro cishet men queer" poll im going to kill and maim and maul

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are there any apl discords or smth?

not that i know of, but you could create one, i dont really use discord much so i wouldn't be goof at running a server

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@ the anon asking about aplatonics not finding betters ways to handle depression: i was aplatonic even when i wasn't depressed. there may be a correlation but being aplatonic doesnt automatically mean you're also depressed

yeah

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I’m not aplatonic but I want every apl person to know that you are appreciated, awesome, & cool, & we love having you in our community.

jfjdndbdb thank you :D

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Ngl i think people should start putting disclaimers on the definition of apl that this is an americantric/anglocantric label. Because i asked literally everyone around me and even on the subreddit on my country (wont say which because thats as good as doxxing myself - small country problems) and none of them experienced platonic attraction. And i got 50 responses in total. So yeah i dont think that this should be a global label i think it should be specified this applies to some cultures and elsewhere not experiencing platonic attraction is the norm. Im not trying to cause offense but this caused a lot of strain in my and my parents relationship because i thought they were mocking me and misunderstanding me on purpose when they wouldnt get what aplatonic meant after i explained it to them but turns out my culture experiences friendship differently so.

hm, i had no idea but i feel like this applies to a lot of labels, so it would be a bit much to have to do that