#nocopying

[michellethevampirequeen]

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[epicrealistyoutube]

Very true. 😿 #exam #life #nocopying #nocheating 😒 #followyourownpath

[hiyaiamtessi-blog]

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[scottishlifecoach-blog]

Why You Don’t Want to Copy others? What is the definition of copying then? To make a similar or identical version of or reproduce something to be the same or it could be to imitate the behavior off someone else. For the last two years I have been modelling my mentor and good friend or so I thought I was, but actually I was copying ever step or move he made. I was trying to copy everything he done, as he was successful. The problem with this was I struggled to keep up to start with and secondly I wasn’t being myself. I found this to be quite stressful, I felt I was comparing myself to my mentor all the time which didn’t put me in good stead and didn’t serve me well. So comparing myself to where my mentor was, this wasn’t good, I was putting myself down, thinking I am not as good as him, this in turn installed FEAR in to me and didn’t allow me to be myself, doing my own thing, producing my own content. This also created jealousy, I was jealous of his success, I wanted the success he had, so to get that I tried to copy. Copying the courses he went on, copying the coaching model, copying the content that was produced and trying to put into my own words, making online courses, again this was stressful, and caused a lot of unnecessary tension in my life. As I was on this two-year journey of modelling (copying) not only did it effect me and my business, it also came at the cost of my relationships with friends and family and had some effect on the break up off my most recent relationship with my daughter’s mum. My behaviours of trying to be someone else had cost me ultimately from being myself, being available for others around me including my daughter. I was so obsessed with being like this guy, I put this guy up on a pedestal, I put my mentor before everything, I worshiped the ground he walked on. Everything he did, I wanted to do, I regurgitated everything he said. This got to point off extreme copying and not actually modelling, I started to model in the beginning, but then it spiralled out of control into extreme behaviours of copying. I tried to be this person in so many areas of my life. This could also be seen as rivalry and me trying to compete with him, which was never my intention to do this. But doing courses on the same platform, producing very similar content could be seen as me working against my own mentor and friend which I didn’t want to be the case as this would create an unhealthy relationship. This copying behaviour had not gone unnoticed by others, I remember going out for a coffee one day with a mutual friend and we had a good open chat as we always do, and he said “I can’t trust you will be yourself at times, as you are always just copying what our friend says”. He was right, I just repeated my mentor all the time rather than answer questions for myself. Copying also brought about dependency on my part, I depended on my mentor to provide with solutions, have all the answers for my life. Also depended on my mentor to share how he did certain things, so again I could copy. This dependency was so unhealthy and was not helping me progress in life. I wasn’t thinking for myself, making decision on my own I was simply copying how he made his decisions. This serious copying became destructive in my business and my personal life, I got into a lot of debt, break down in relationships, tension, I didn’t feel good enough, lacked confidence in my own ability and most importantly lost my sense of self and not allowing me to live out my passion (still working on that). Now I know I am good enough to do my own thing, what that is I don’t know as yet. It may be writing blogs ha ha. If only I stuck to modelling areas of my mentor life, such as behaviours, attitudes, habits and routine and put into the context of my life then maybe I wouldn’t have been in the predicament I am in today. On a positive note I have made this realization now rather than a further 2 years down the line. I guess the question you will want to ask now is ‘what have you learned about yourself along the way? Well for me it was why was I copying so much, ultimately it was FEAR, fear of rejection for being myself, fear of failure. I was also trying to get it right for my mentor and others around me. If he has success in what he is doing, then I just need to follow suit and it will be ok and that is where I was wrong.  Copying limited me to create my own life, stopped me from doing my own thing and being my real self. 7 Reasons Why You Don’t Want to Copy someone else: - 1. You will always be one step behind. 2. You will never be secure in yourself. 3. You have your own ideas, use imagination more. 4. You can’t rely on them for success. 5. People know when you are copying others. 6. You are not being your authentic self. 7. You can get stressed trying to keep up. So these 7 reasons I know only too well from personal experience and how it has affected me in my life. Now that I am aware of these reasons I have started to be creative in myself, slowed down and started to reflect more, so that I can realise my potential, and start being myself. When being myself I can be more available for others, have stronger relationships, more fulfilled in my business and personal life. This has been a learning curve, I am not perfect and I will make mistakes going forward, all I am focused on at the moment is taking small steps to start creating my life not living someone else’s. ‘Its better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation’ There maybe some off these reasons you may resonate with or may not, you may see the reasons effecting you right now. So questions I will ask you is in what way is copying someone else affecting you in your life right now and why? What if you stopped copying this person? What would happen?

[imaselfsabotager-blog]

Try - a poem I wrote by Lianne C.

Blank screen White Nothing Blank again Looking for inspiration Nothing Blank Looking deep into soul Nothing Blank again Try? Just did. Try again? Same thing. Try harder. Shut up! Black and white Blank screen Or so...I thought.

[urbanalleyblog]

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