if you can't deal with or acknowledge the exorsexist stereotypes that go into your favorite nonbinary characters then IDK what to tell you. That's a personal problem. But it absolutely does not give you the right to pretend those exorsexist stereotypes aren't there, or turn around and say the people pointing out the exorsexism are the real bigots.
That's no longer just you liking a character, you're now actively upholding the exorsexism that's already in place, by not just refusing to talk about it, not just ignoring the people pointing it out, you're now actively demonizing the people who are calling out the exorsexism.
And that's fucking exorsexist. Yes, even if you are also nonbinary. You do not get to weaponize your nonbinary identity to demonize and silence nonbinary people who actually put the work in to recognize and criticize exorsexism.
You either need to learn to recognize the bigotry in your favorite characters, or at least do everyone a favor and keep your bigotry to yourself.
Stop making it everyone else's problem that you think exorsexism shouldn't be criticized if you personally enjoy it. No, the people putting in the hard work to talk about it are not "the real exorsexists". You are.