#Repost @latinxparenting • • • • • During this quarantine, I have been finding myself wanting to dangle social interactions as a reward. For example, “If you forgot to feed the dog, I’m not sure I can let you FaceTime your friend.” This is super childist, misguided, and very power over. I’ve been able to check myself before actually letting the words escape my mouth (so far 😅). Sometimes we need the reminder that our children have RIGHTS and those rights are not to be mistaken with REWARDS for behavior. It’s tempting to dangle prizes in front of them to get them to do what we want, but it does not support their connection or learning long-term. We teach them that our relationship is transactional and this power-over non-collaborative mentality is not only potentially emotionally destructive but it models to them that this is how relationships work. I’m assuming that this tweet is supposed to be for teachers but as parents, we too can benefit from this reminder (as I am) that children are humans and not machines with buttons that work or don’t work “for us”. Sending you love and lots and lots of patience vibes. 😌💕 #latinoparenting #latino #parenting #nonviolentparenting #nonviolence #childism #kidsarepeopletoo #youthrights #childrensrights (at Maryland) https://www.instagram.com/p/CM3bXyMJeyY/?igshid=1aluspoybs5pw
