The Double Date
Nope, its not what you think. Not a double date where a guy and I had dinner with another couple. It was back-to-back dates with two different guys. Surprisingly it worked, no overlap, no mixing up the guys, no made for a movie run into each other kind of situations. But I will say, I probably wont do it again, I realized that one date may completely overshadow the other and that just isn’t fair to the fellas…cuz you know, I’m concerned about them from a journalistic point of view of course.
The first date, was a first date. It was another coffee shop date and man those are good ones. Lets call him Bob. For no particular reason. I couldn’t think of a cute relatable name from our date. Bob was from the Bahamas, went to school in Jamaica and now was getting his masters in Atlanta. A lot of the guys I have been talking to or dating from online are from other countries…its hard to keep who is from where straight. At first I thought he was just a typical nice guy. We had really good conversation about traveling, work, school, future plans, and family. He was really nicely dressed and by no means gave me any heebie jebbie vibes. He actually asked me a number of questions about myself…and not only that, he seemed genuinely interested in my answers! Now considering my experience with first online dates have been the guys just rambling for whatever reason, this was very refreshing. I wouldn’t say I was bored but Im clearly a girl who need a little excitement…and he finally gave it to me.
In college Bob not only smoked weed but also he sold it. (My kinda man…we definitely would have been homies in college). He was selling it in Jamaica with his roommates. One day they were walking back to their apartment and there were 5 or 6 men with bandanas over their mouths and guns standing at their place. Bob and friends turned and ran while they were repeatedly shot at. Not only did Bob continue to sell weed but also about a year later the police arrived to try to bust them but also they couldn’t because they did not have a warrant. Interestingly enough when he was telling me this story I was not only impressed but a little turned on.
We went on to talk about a lot of other things and none of the conversation was forced. Now I don’t know if I am attracted enough to him to sleep with him but I definitely would hang out with him again to find out. I had to run to catch my other date…he didn’t know that of course. So until next time with Bob.
Next time. My interest in hanging out with him again was quickly depleted a few days later. Check this text message interaction two days later.
Bob “Will I ever see you again?”
Me “Im sure you will”
“Well I wanna see you this week, Friday. Grab a few drinks somewhere”
“Aww I wish I could but Im super busy this weekend, going out of town but when Im back from vacation for sure”
“When are you back?”
“June 19th”
“Have a great vacation and when you get back hit me up”
“I definitely will!”
A day later…
Bob “Hey I don’t think you are totally feeling me, Im the type of person I don’t like wasting my time or yours so if your not feeling it let me know and Im going to just delete your number”
Pause. What? Did he not just participate in the conversation above?
Me “Oh well I had a really good time getting to you know and would definitely hang out again but it sounds like you are looking for more of a commitment and I cant give that to you”
Bob “Im not looking for a relationship, I don’t know how you got that from me”
Me “Then why the immediate feeling to delete my number just because I cant hang out right away when you want to?”
Bob “I would rather have a drink at a bar with you”
Um ya now that is definitely not happening.
A week later he texted me “Stop thinking about me!”
Um ya definitely not happening. On to the next one.
Stay Tuned.