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[outerspaceisbetterthannothing]

I was just reading your anon message about periods and I just wanted to add a few things that I think may have been overlooked: While you are correct that most times pain, especially severe pain, associated with periods is the result of an underlying medical condition, there are a subset of women who experience cramps without any underlying conditions/diseases. These women typically experience a decrease in the amount of associated pain over time, but sometimes the pain persists (1/?)

Similarly, you are also correct in that exercise can be a great tool for some women (chronic conditions or otherwise) in managing and controlling cramping, however it works to varying degrees and is not effective for everyone. The anon was correct in noting that cramping is the result of contractions of uterine muscles to expel the lining of the uterus which it so nicely built up in anticipation of a baby that ultimately never came (2/?)             

I'm unsure on what you mean when you say the abdominal muscles are overtoned? I'd love some clarification as I'm sure some women experience pain from a different source during menstruation. Lastly, the natural fluctuation of hormones such as estrogen and progesterone during menstruation & ovulation can cause some women to experience mood swings and while the majority of the time this can be well managed with diet and exercise, in some cases it may not fully negate the potential for swings (3/?)            

Sorry last one (4/4)   Although you are sort of hitting on a bit of truth in noting that mood swings should not be largely affecting your daily life. Typically if they are, as you said, it's indicative of a larger issue that could be addressed.             

thanks to the anon for mostly agreeing with me. i’ll also add some shit.

one more (and the last, because i do believe that i’ve said more than enough on the topic) time:

feeling pain and mood swings is natural. but the fact that it’s natural doesn’t mean you should tolerate it in silence if it affects your normal everyday life. so if it does, go see your doc and check things just to find out why you feel pain so much. it can be nothing serious but although dishormonal things being mostly not very dangerous, it can influence your normal life and so it’s always better to check and be sure everything’s fine.

also note please, that feeling stronger pain during your puberty is also more natural, but with time it should decrease and you can help your body with it.

if you’re sure you’re okay and there’s no medical condition that should be adressed, just educate yourself on what can effect your health. there’s nothing wrong with it! knowing your body is very important for your life, imo. there are  lots of sources online that can explain basic things, like stress, diet and habits influencing your periods pain.

here are some links from the top of the search

https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/period-cramps-101-why-menstrual-cramps-and-pain-occur-and-how-to-relieve

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/319579

https://time.com/4761733/yoga-pms-period-cramps/

here are two whole ass researches on the topic of diet and yoga influencing pain

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5963185/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4962262/

if you don’t wanna read, here’s in short: researches show that if you drink a lot of water, eat more healthily, eliminate big amounts of salt, fast carbohydrates, fat, soda and packeted juices (that have much more sugar in them than anything good) there’s an extremely high chance you’ll feel better during periods. also, stop smoking, don’t take a lot of caffeine, start exercising, little things, no one says you should be an Olympic athlete to feel better. the level of your stress is also one of the most common triggers.

here are some poses from yoga for when you feel period cramps

https://www.lunette.com/blogs/news/7-yoga-poses-to-help-ease-menstrual-pain

my favourite is Viparita Karani (number six), it brings better blood flow to your abdomen and relaxes muscles real quick (that’s what i meant under muscles being overtoned). they are fast and can be done every day in the morning, periods or not, and in a long run it will definitely make you feel better. taking a look at eastern systems like yoga in general can be benefitial, as it is a huge system with lots of tips on achieving mental health and physically helathy life style, like diets and stuff. you don’t need to become a faithful follower to exercise some parts of this system in your every day life. just try and maybe you’ll find something for yourself.

so, take care of yourself and remember that you’re not obliged to live in pain. i mean, cold or headaches are also natural, but everyone cures them. you can “cure” your pain, limit it to the point when it doesn’t influence your life. patriarchal world has been telling women they were born to suffer for so long that in modern times i see so many women agreeing on it silently, without asking any questions. and it breaks my heart.

love yourself. study your body. visit doctors regularly. learn how to help yourself.

live a happy painless life, darling girl. you fully deserve it.

[lrugloyak]

HOW EACH MYERS-BRIGGS® TYPE REACTS TO STRESS (AND HOW TO HELP!)

INFJ – The Counselor

What stresses out an INFJ: – Having to focus too much on sensory/concrete details – An overload of sensory stimulation or noise – Interruptions – Distress within a close relationship – Having their values violated – Not enough alone time. Too much extraverting. – Working with closed-minded people – Lack of appreciation or understanding – Unfamiliar environments with overwhelming amounts of details – Having plans disrupted – Not having a clear direction – Lack of harmony – Criticism and conflict – Not being able to use their intuition or envision the future – Having to focus too much on the present

When under stress, the INFJ feels fragmented or lost. They feel like they can’t be themselves, and feel an urge to act a part to “survive” or fit in. This disassociation can cause physical symptoms for the INFJ, like headaches, IBS, or nausea. The repressed feelings they’re holding onto can cause them to become immobilized. If they are under chronic extreme stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extraverted sensing. When this happens, they may engage in indulgent, self-destructive habits like binge-eating, cutting, over-exercising, alcoholism, or excessive pornography use. This often feels like an out-of-body experience to them. What they do provides no pleasure, but feels somewhat robotic and out of control. After this occurs, they dwell in self-hatred, falling even more into guilt over what they’ve done. They may become uncharacteristically angry and quick-tempered, unreasonable, and irrational. They may become obsessed with details in their outer world; obsessively cleaning or doing housework. They stumble over their words, and their intense feelings eventually lead them to a state of complete exhaustion.

How to help an INFJ experiencing stress: – Give them space. – Reduce sensory stimulation; music, interruptions, TV, etc,.. – Let them express their thoughts and feelings. – Understand that they may be irrational. Don’t judge them. – Don’t give advice. This will only stress them out further. – Let them take a break from some of their responsibilities – Encourage them to spend some time in nature, walking or reading a book. – Take a walk with them if they want company. – Encourage their less serious side, and let them relieve emotional tension by letting them cry through a sappy movie or novel of some sort. – Be forgiving if they’ve been overly harsh or critical while under stress. Chances are, they will feel very guilty about it.

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