#notyourboyfriend

[tonyforrestt]

Everybody’s looking for that Somebody that makes them FEEL. #tonyforrestt #artist #blackboyjoy #blackguysrock #guyanese #america #notyourboyfriend (at Brooklyn, New York)

[hisboywondr]

I need tongue I need face Give me brain, concentrate . . . . . #hisboywondr #jeffydylan #jeffy #gay #gayboy #gaysofinstagram #instagay #gaysnapchat #gaybeard #gaychesthair #greeneyedboy #boyswithdarkhair #beardedgay #beardedboy #notyourboyfriend #wokeuplikethis #cutegay

[hisboywondr]

2 0 1 8 . . . . . #hisboywondr #jeffydylan #jeffy #gay #gayboy #gaysofinstagram #instagay #gaysnapchat #gaybeard #gaychesthair #greeneyedboy #boyswithdarkhair #beardedgay #beardedboy #notyourboyfriend #wokeuplikethis #cutegay

[akarooke]

#formerfriends #notyourboyfriend #notataxiservice #bye #drunkfriends

[sighinastorm]

There is going to come a time, probably sooner than later, when the people who voted for Trump are going to have to be ready and willing to criticize him.  They’re going to have to remember he wasn’t their first (or second, or ninth) choice.  Bill Maher used to have a thing he said a lot to the more cultish Obama fans in his audience, when they would boo him for criticizing the job performance of the sitting president.  He said, “he’s not your boyfriend”.  Donald Trump is not your boyfriend.  Hillary doesn't enter into this arithmetic; forget about her.  He’s the guy we’ve got, and his is the job performance we will have to evaluate.

[sassythoughts213]

He's not your real Boyfriend

July 11, 2012 • By NC-17

Girl meets boy. Girl becomes friendly with boy. Girl fucks boy. Girl becomes stressed because boy isn’t claiming her as his girlfriend. Girl wants to move on but doesn’t want to lose him as a “friend”. I’ve had so many women tell me how they’ve been talking to non-comittal guys for months and want more, but he doesn’t seem to care. The easy answer is to stop talking to him if he doesn’t want you the same way you want him. But they don’t want to lose that friendship, so they keep on going through the motions, hoping one day he’ll realize they should be more. That’s right, friendship has become the latest in the line of weak ass excuses for holding on to a dead end relationship. I call bullshit. I’m not talking about life long friends who earned their spots, these are guys they’ve known for a year or less. Somehow this nigga you randomly met at a cookout four months ago has become your best friend on the planet. You’re willing to suffer through relationship purgatory because your lonely ass feels some kind of connection? The word “friendship” has been misused more times than Joseline’s post op vagina. Just because you laugh together, ate a few meals in front of each other, and shared childhood memories doesn’t mean you’re bffs—it means you two are cool. That man is not your true blue friend, he’s the guy you were talking to and got attached. The entire reason he has your phone number is because of the sexual attraction. Women meet a lot of guys, but when one with the right mixture of looks and charisma gets in that ear, it’s a wrap. His jokes are funnier, his lies are more believable, and the smiley face he leaves after a text is suddenly proof of love. Is this friendship or is this infatuation? Face it, every human being has people they crush on, even if you wouldn’t take it there, you still show favoritism to those people. When that infatuation is aimed towards someone who would rather abuse those feelings than reciprocate, you end up getting played. There is this entire “Thirsty” movement where people are afraid to show how much they like a person for fear of getting played. Thirsty is niggas who are liking your two-month-old facebook pics at three in the morning. Thirsty is hoes who take pictures in their little sister’s bra with a face full of make up then post it like, “Just woke up, I look a mess“. Those people are thisrty for attention. Admitting to liking someone you’re talking to and inquiring about where it’s going, isn’t being thirsty, it’s being adult.

It’s been six months and you two aren’t anything serious or exclusive, just people who talk and fuck. Do you tell him you want to try a relationship? Do you force him to be with you by threatening to cut off the coochie supply? Do you bury your emotions and pretend you’re okay being friends who fuck? I’ve found that many women are afraid to speak up, so they choose the last answer. Girls hold all the power, but for some reason they don’t want to rock the boat by communicating their feelings. “If I tell him how I feel, I’ll turn him off“. Hold the fuck up. Wanting to be his girl is going to make him distance himself and not be your “friend”? Good, because that means he didn’t fuck with you like that anyway. Let’s pretend you play it the coward way and keep your mouth closed and suppress those emotions. You fail. Once you start to fall for that guy, there is no hiding that. Do you really think you can continue to talk to him every day, fuck him every weekend, and not go crazy? Relationship Purgatory is real. There are men who chase women who aren’t looking to settle, there are women who cry over men who refused to be caged. It’s a huge problem that can easily be solved if people weren’t so afraid to walk away from stalled relationships. I want to focus on the women, because they created an entire category just for situations like this, females call it:

THE FRIEND

No woman wants to seem like she’s weak, dick whipped, and waiting on a man to decide if she’s good enough for the title. So they created “The Friend” or “My Friend” label, which protects her from being thought of as a dummy that’s being used. “I don’t care what he’s out there doing, girl, he’s just my friend, it ain’t that serious” two minutes later she’s in bed playing Melanie Fiona confused as to why her Friend doesn’t want to settle down and be her man. The Friend is like a boyfriend without the exclusive rights. He’s everything she wants in a man but the only thing holding her back from making it official is that mutual agreement of “I belong to you“. Unlike the hated Friendzone, when a girl describes you as “My Friend” you hear the excitement and you know what it’s code for. Men purposely get into the Friend category so they can get the milk without buying the cow. On the other side of the fence, there are many full-bloodied Spartans who acquire friends so they can have dick and conversation without the stress of a hard up nigga trying to handcuff her. If you’re disciplined enough being someone’s Friend could be a good situation… but that’s a big “if”. There are the Bassicas out here who don’t talk to other guys because they’re waiting on The Friend to make it official. In her simple mind being his confidant who supplies pussy = girlfriend in training, but rarely does it work out that way. The Friend category is supposed to make it easier to accept that he’s still fucking other women or doing shit he has no business doing, but in reality, it can cause just as much stress as if he were your real boyfriend. You still love him, you still get moist thinking about him, you still bend over backwards to help him out, but unlike a boyfriend you can’t check him for not doing what he’s suppose to be doing relationship wise because he’s a FREE AGENT. What man would want to leave that kind of life for one where he has to be monogamous and answer for his actions? He got the ass without making a commitment, why make one now? If Microsoft came to a kid in high school and made him a VP, college can suck a dick. He’s already won. When you make any guy who’s not your official boyfriend the C.E.O of your pussy, he has no incentive to make you more than just his friend.

The jump off friendship A woman will agree to a purely sexual relationship, even promise not to get insecure or jealous, but still get emotionally attached. Some men are known to fall in love with their part-time pussy and get simped out, but more times than not, it’s the female who gets caught up. One excuse this girl gave was that once it passes a certain period, a Friends With Benefits situation should end and relationship discussions should start. In other words, she wanted her pussy to be promoted for its hard work. You have the right to renegotiate the arrangement, but do you really think a man who’s had his fill of you for a year without having to work for anything is emotionally invested in being your man? The bigger question is can you trust a man who would agree to that kind of arrangement in the first place? Jumpoff girls usually aren’t hoes, they’re women who have been hurt and aren’t ready for a full relationship but still want to have sex with someone they’re comfortable with. Although it’s not an exclusive arrangement, the majority of these women don’t fuck anyone outside of their FWB. Men on the other hand aren’t going to be content with one pussy. We’re gamblers; we can’t stop while we’re winning. We need to double up, even triple up, because we live in fear of the day when we won’t be able to fuck who we want to. The thing to remember is that while a man can learn to love his jumpoff for what she provides, he rarely falls in love with her. No matter how nice and innocent she is, it’s always going to be this perception that she’s giving up free pussy to me, then she’s my freak. You can spend months building that bond with your fuck buddy, but at the end of the day, he doesn’t want to wife his freak. A nice girl who he has to work hard to fuck and has no history of doing freaky shit, that’s who he’ll throw a ring on. Leaving you to sit scratching your head wondering what she had that you didn’t. That’s the hypocritical nature of men, we love nasty girls, but we don’t want our future wives to have done anything that seems morally questionable like being a jumpoff. It’s unfair, because agreeing to be FWB doesn’t make you a slut or less classy. However, in the mind of the man you’ve been fucking, it could make you seem like damaged goods, and that’s not a stock he wants to invest in long term. If you want to use him for sex, use him for sex. Don’t agree to a jumpoff situation because you think it’s going to end with him promoting you.