I HAD to repost this because I have to have this EXACT conversation and make this nearly EXACT stament every year. See it deh, the beautiful and VENERABLE Taj Anwar Baoll and her strong family... @berettascottking Please don't tell me Happy Father's Day. I hold it down as a single mother, but wishing me happy Father’s Day is not a compliment. I'm not a man. I'm not a father. My children have fathers. Im not a man. I'm not a father. My children were carried in my womb for nine months, came out of my vagina and were breastfed for two full years. All things a father cannot do. My children’s fathers provide a strong inner core resource, a sense of well-being and good self-esteem from a male perspective and in a way I cannot. I'm a woman. I'm a mother. I'm a coparent. While the sentiment is well intended, it doesn’t make sense to me. I'm not a man. I'm not a father. Even if I was raising them by myself. I still wouldn't be their father. I'm not a man. I'm not a father. Happy Fathers Day to my children’s fathers. Im grateful for their presence in all of my children’s lives, including the ones they are not the biological father of. I pray for their health, happiness and abundance. I give thanks for the balance of masculinity and perspective they bring to the lives of all the children in our family- including the ones they fathered that I did not give birth to. I appreciate that we can remain on good terms and even friends as we have raised/ are raising incredible human beings. And while our building has not always been agreeable, we remain solid as a family. People often ask me how is this possible. Why do I have some much love, care and concern for my exes. It’s possible because I love them, and the reason is my Black children need their Black fathers. Its possible because it’s necessary. When my children’s fathers thrive, our children benefit. Let the fathers FATHER. Honor and Uphold Black Fatherhood. Black children need their Black fathers. And don’t get in my comments about “all fatherhood matters.” The topic is the topic and I said what I said. 🎨 by @cfluxsing #iyaonthebluff #obatalashawty 🕊 #olnegrospiritualhoodrat https://www.instagram.com/p/CQWd6nED37W/?utm_medium=tumblr
