ha lol i genuinely don’t understand how passing as a cis woman, given that i’m not a cis woman, is like genuinely a privilege. like i understand that it keeps me safe from the risk of battery on the grounds that i’m not overtly gnc, but that’s also really fucked up because besides that i’m still at a ton of risk walking around alone in public?
not to mention street harassment? not to mention its fucking unpleasant as shit to be walking around, minding my own business, fucking feeling like me - a genderless vector that shifts with my mood - and being shouted at and “complimented” and followed and objectified and shit. or being condescended to or being told that my “parts” are female (very specific one time instance that has serious context needed) or that my body is female or that i won’t be able to pass or that i’m a beautiful woman or whatever. and i mean yeah, i get that dying my hair the colors of the genderfluid pride flag doesn’t exactly deflect attention but i need to be able to express myself somehow and i should not be penalized for that by way of being paid excessive attention by strangers, esp not when it’s tied in with the immediate assumption and vocalization of my being a woman. i’m not a woman. also more like than not the assumption of my womanhood is intertwined with the assumption of my heterosexuality.
i just, i fail to see the privilege here. i fail to see the privilege in being misgendered fucking constantly. especially because the way i experienced womanhood/femininity - which varies from person to person and this is my very specific experience - was as a object of sexual gratification to men and not much else. and i’m sorry being seen and treated that way makes me really fucking upset. i’m not a woman, i’m not even allosexual and my need to move from place to place is not one that is invented so men can fucking fuck with me.